Is your Pisces guy refusing to commit to you without being clear on why? It’s stressful playing a guessing game with a Pisces man and frustrating, to say the least, if you sense that your Pisces man doesn’t want a relationship!
Let’s just get one thing straight: Pisces men are notorious for avoiding commitment. This is a sign that is known for ghosting on the regular, so it’s totally not personal. In other words, it’s not you—it’s him! Pisces man commitment issues are so complex.
In my experience as a relationship astrologer, a Pisces man not ready for a relationship tends to drift off and come back, often leaving you wondering what has gone wrong. It’s even more confusing because it’s likely that he was professing his undying love and desire to marry you just a few days ago, right?
There are many reasons why a Pisces man could be avoiding commitment, but the point is that this is just what Pisces men do. They often feel trapped, and like the fish this sign symbolizes, they will look for a way out of any situation that feels too structured.
You just have to trust that he’s either going to return and let him be or set some boundaries. Sometimes, that’s what this guy needs. There need to be consequences for his actions so that he knows he is hurting you and has to face up to it.
Here are just some of the reasons why your Pisces man doesn’t want a relationship:
Do Pisces Men Have Commitment Issues?
Doing what is socially acceptable, such as settling down with one person or being in a committed relationship, doesn’t create any pressure for a Pisces man. He just wants to keep his options open and doesn’t want to do what is normally accepted by society.
A Pisces man needs a partner who won’t rush him, who listens without judgment, and who also performs the way Pisces is expected to. His communication about vulnerability will be guarded because that is his style; the more you focus directly on the emotional side and vulnerability, the more evasive he’ll become.
A Pisces man cannot easily commit. He isn’t going to commit himself to just anyone; he has a big list of things that he expects from his partner, and if he doesn’t feel that you have it, he isn’t going to waste his or your time by going into a relationship he feels half sure about.
However, all people can develop issues around commitment if they have somehow been traumatized, perhaps by their childhood or previous relationship. But naturally, Pisces men would rather be in a relationship than not.
6 Reasons Why A Pisces Man Doesn’t Want A Relationship
1. He Feels Trapped
Pisces men often feel trapped. Whether it’s a relationship, a job, or any other commitment, he just hates feeling boxed in. He’ll look for any way out, which often leads to him just not committing at all to you or anything else at all.
Signs that he’s feeling trapped look like him disappearing for longer and longer periods of time, such as surfing for hours or putting on his headphones and not talking for ages. These are small things that show he’s needing to escape.
What you can do in this situation is give him space and not ask too much of him. When he feels less pressured, he will be more likely to be able to step up and give more of himself. This is true of all Pisces men, in my experience with relationship astrology.
2. He Is Avoiding Difficult Feelings
Pisces men hate feeling uncomfortable. Being a water sign, a Pisces man is remarkably switched off sometimes, even though he’s flowing with empathy and intuition. This is a sign well-known for numbing, avoiding, and escaping when feelings get too strong or confrontational.
For example, maybe you’ve had your first argument. Or maybe you’re angry with him. Perhaps it’s a case of him not feeling like things are a fairytale any more, that reality has stepped in, and there’s work to be done (just like in any relationship!).
This is when a Pisces man pulls away. They hate any kind of confrontation, and feelings such as anger, irritation, jealousy, sadness, or anything besides total happiness are not their cup of tea.
This is a time when he may refuse to commit to you because he just can’t handle having to deal with relationship reality. It’s very frustrating for any woman!
Taking it slow and giving your Pisces man some space does help, as does being gentle and non-confrontational when there’s an issue, which will help him feel calmer and less pressured.
You may also want to read: Why Are Pisces Men So Confusing And Not Straight Up About Their Feelings?
3. He’s Already Involved – And Not Telling You
Although this is not often the case, it is possible that your Pisces feels like living a double life and seeing someone else at the same time as you. He is a sign that is capable of duplication, indecision, and being unfaithful, even if he has no bad intentions.
Most of the time, he’s just indecisive and doesn’t want to hurt anyone. And, because he’s non-confrontational, he also avoids making any kind of move in any direction. This results in looking like your Pisces man doesn’t want a relationship.
What should you do? Well, you can give him an ultimatum, because that’s likely what he needs—even if he hates the pressure of it. Hopefully, that should make him think about who to choose and how much he cares about you.
4. He Can’t Deal With The Responsibility Of A Relationship
Let’s be honest here: relationships are a major responsibility. They take work when the rose-colored glasses finally come off. You are two different people trying to adapt to each other and still maintain a sense of identity.
And the thing is, Pisces men just hate any kind of responsibility. They bring other gifts to the relationship, such as intuition, empathy, caring, creativity, and kindness. They are the ultimate support system!
However, when the relationship becomes serious, for all his big talk about marriage and running into the sunset, he may get cold feet. This can result in him avoiding commitment.
The good news is that he usually does come around after he realizes what the two of you have. Just give him some time. However, not too much time—he does need to know that you won’t wait around forever!
5. He’s Into Polyamory
Pisces is a sign that truly believes in sharing love. If it were up to him, no one would ever be in a monogamous relationship, because according to him, there’s more than enough to go around!
Have you ever asked him if he’s into being with more than one person at a time? Remember, it’s not always about sex but, more often, about sharing oneself emotionally with others.
This style of relationship also suits Pisces because it never makes him feel trapped or suffocated. If there’s an attraction, he can follow it and he will be okay if you do, too.
Polyamory isn’t for everyone, though, and it does take a certain amount of ability and a certain amount of commitment to have that. And that, funnily enough, is what the Pisces man is trying to avoid in the first place!
6. He’s Soul-Searching
Being such an incredibly soulful and spiritual sign does make the Pisces man the type to wander the world, searching for himself. This may lead him to new countries, experiences, and all kinds of journeys that help him discover who he is.
If he is on a spiritual journey like this, he’s going to be very reluctant to commit to you and have a partner for whom he feels responsible. He also knows he has no boundaries, which means that when he fasts, he falls hard and completely. And then there’s no room for himself or his journey.
Try not to expect him to be with you in any sort of stable arrangement if this is the case. If you hear him talking about all the places he needs to visit and all the journeys he wants to have, it’s best to step away and not expect very much at all.
When A Pisces Man Is Not Ready For A Relationship — Here’s What To Do
Just like anyone, if a Pisces man is not ready for a relationship, he may not commit as quickly as you’d like. It doesn’t mean he won’t ever think so. It just means that the timing is crucial.
If you really care for him and see there is something between you, then it may work best for you to just have more patience. Talk to each other about important things. Make him feel like he’s in control because if there’s chaos in a situation, Pisces will stay away from it at all costs.
Once you have his mind, you will also gain his heart. Keep the conversation alive; don’t sound needy or clingy. He wants lightheartedness in love—no hard talk, no judging, and no accusations.
Here’s more on what a Pisces man looks for in a woman.
How To Get A Pisces Man To Commit
First and foremost, be patient. He may not move slowly, but he may not want to move fast either. It depends on his level of comfort, his maturity, and whatever baggage he may have from the past to determine how ready your Pisces man is to commit.
If a Pisces man lets you know he’s not ready for a relationship and you keep trying to push him, he’ll start pulling back or acting out toward you. So even though you may think you need to have him commit quickly, you may want to hold off a bit.
Confide in him. He needs time to work on his insecurities and whatever holds him down emotionally. If he sees you opening up to him, there is a big chance for him to reciprocate. Talk about deeper aspects of life, share your struggles, good things, and bad things with him, and you will see that soon he will leave his crab shell for you.
FAQs On Pisces Man And Commitment
How to know if your Pisces man is ready to commit? Do Pisces and commitment can even be part of the same line?
Well, luckily for you I have compiled questions that might come up in your relationship. Hopefully, this can help you navigate your relationship with your Pisces man.
Are Pisces Afraid Of Commitment?
Pisces men are pretty inconsistent, and as such, are afraid of commitment. They do not base their decisions on what everyone else is doing. A Pisces man is acting his true self when he is slow to commit.
This means he is taking the time to get to know you and making sure that being with you is the right thing to do for both of you. Let him set the pace and take the reigns. He is being careful for a reason.
Why Is A Pisces Man Slow To Fall In Love?
A Pisces man likes to practice self-preservation, because he is afraid of getting hurt and being disappointed by you. Pisces man slow in love is very common to notice. So instead of rushing into the relationship like fiery zodiac signs, Pisces finds it easier to wait than to cope with the possibility of having his heart broken.
Some Pisces men fall easily in love but are prone to deception. They think they are in love, but they are unintentionally deceiving themselves. But when they do fall in love, they tend to believe they have found the perfect match.
Will A Pisces Man Stick Around If He Wasn’t Interested?
No, he will not. If a Pisces man is not interested, he will avoid you. He will not waste his time if he has no feelings for you. If he was into you, he would go all the way to connect with you emotionally and spiritually.
So, when the feelings are not there, a Pisces man simply won’t put time and effort into getting to know you on a deeper level and is not likely to get himself invested in the relationship.
If you can discern his behavioral patterns, you can tell if he is into you or not. So, a Pisces man who is not interested usually does not stick around.
No More Sleepless Nights About Your Pisces Man…
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Pisces man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Pisces guys. I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her.
She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.
As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that. But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him. Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work. She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language <<
And it worked!!
So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Pisces man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…