Hello, gorgeous! So you’ve set your sights on a Pisces man, but you have noticed that he tends to blow hot and cold. You might be wondering why is your Pisces man acting weird? One minute they’re all over you, the next you never hear from them for days.
What is up with the Pisces man hot and cold behavior? It is so frustrating because all you probably want to do is move forward with him, but when you check again, it feels like you’re only going backwards.
What are Pisces men’s bad traits in love? Why are Pisces men so cold? It can be very confusing to try to understand this phenomenon. What a nightmare!
But don’t worry, you have come to the right place, and I can put your mind at ease and make you understand why this happens and what you need to do about it.
So if you’re curious to find out why is your Pisces man acting hot and cold, then keep reading to find out more. I promise you’ll understand what to do next.
Why Are Pisces So Hot And Cold?
Keep in mind that a Pisces man is a water sign. This means that he has the capacity to go with the flow yet he also has the ability to become quite chilly when he feels things are not going his way.
It’s not that he wants to hurt anyone or be a hard-ass though. It’s more that he didn’t know what he was really getting into when he went in with full force. He didn’t see what was about to happen and thus fell on his face.
Even when you’re in a committed relationship with a Pisces man, he will sometimes have some very cynical or abrupt comments that will make you feel as though he just cut you with a knife.
Typically he will apologize for it because he’ll realize that it was not the right thing to do and wasn’t nice. However; it won’t stop him from letting things slip again in the future. Ladies, he’s not perfect! No one is.
Just try to remember he is human and he can sometimes be standoffish or cold just like anyone else according to their mood. Pisces men are moody for sure because the water makes them fluid like this. Everything affects them.
Learn more about some warning signs a Pisces man is playing you <<
What Makes A Pisces Turn Cold? — 4 Possible Reasons
He Doesn’t Want To Be Fully Committed
Pisces men are looking for deeper meaning when it comes to sex and love. In his early years, he may not understand what he is looking for. This causes him to do things that are less than ideal.
This means he could blow very hot, get in the sack with a beautiful woman, and then act as though it never happened then she never hears from him again. As the Pisces man ages; he becomes a bit more responsible.
In youth, Pisces men like to experiment and see what is out there before they settle down. If you’re dating an immature Pisces male; he may be trying to “hit it and quit it”.
This is the type of guy who will tell you everything you’ve ever wanted to hear, do all the right things, and turn you on more than you ever have in your life. He’ll then sex you up and then be out the door.
If this is the case; he’s not committed to you and isn’t looking for a relationship. He should have told you but if he had, he wouldn’t have been able to get your goods right? He knows this.
If he isn’t talking about committing to you then he is just in it to win it and get what he wants then move on. He’ll be fantastic at what he does for sure and you’ll get hooked but then you’ll have to let go.
Here’s more about why Pisces men avoid commitment.
He Fell In Love With You Too Quickly
There are some Pisces men that get so excited that they’ve found a wonderful woman who is so beautiful that he’ll forget what he’s looking for in a mate. The feeling of infatuation makes him think he’s in love.
Sadly he’ll go along with this until he realizes that it was in fact; just infatuation then he’ll back peddle, get cold, not talk much, and basically not know what to do. Either he’ll break it off or he’ll push for you to.
A Pisces man loves being in love but he doesn’t seem to see the difference when it happens at first. Everyone gets excited when they date someone new. He takes it to levels you cannot even imagine.
He falls in love and then realizes that it’s not really love, it’s lust. Then he wants to bail. If he doesn’t bail; he’ll continue his search without even telling you that is his plan. This means he can and will cheat.
Not all Pisces men cheat but they have the capacity to and certainly will go with what they feel at any given moment. Be careful when he comes on really strong from the get go. He needs time to see if it’s real or not and so do you.
If you struggle with getting your Pisces man to open up and finding the right words to make him feel special, I strongly suggest getting my Pisces Man Love Language guide. It will help you finally speak the same love language as him, and make your bond so much stronger.
He May Think You Are Not Into Him
Pisces men are highly sensitive and they love to explore the realms of the subconscious. This includes his emotional desires and feelings.
When you open your heart to him and share your secret feelings and longgings, your Pisces man will feel closer to you. He will easily fall in love with you and will feel like you’re exactly the kind of woman he can spend the rest of his life with.
The worst thing you can do with a Pisces man is to hide your feelings or play cool, trying to always be stoic and strong rather than showing vulnerability. This is a one-way street ladies. Such behavior may lead him to think you are not into him and he will start blowing cold in your direction.
Being kind and open to him is the first step to making him see that you’re a safe person. He needs to understand that you have no alternate agenda and that the only reason you’re looking for him to open up is because you want to be there for him.
This is the first step to creating that bond that you’re after. At that point, you’ll notice him being more honest about his intentions with you.
Rising Sign Or Moon Sign Play Their Parts
Pisces men will act differently if they happen to have a more aggressive or colder sign in a prevalent spot in their chart. If they have a Taurus or Virgo rising sign or moon sign; they may ice people out at times.
Scorpio is another sign that he could have that would make him play the hot and cold game. It becomes important to know what other signs your Pisces man has in place because it surely can affect how he acts versus a typical Pisces.
Planets play a much larger role than one would think. For Pisces; he’s a lover and a romance artist. However; he can abuse this if he has a sign in his major placements that would indicate he’s also very cold at times.
This could be one facet to why he would blow very hot and then turn very cold. It’s not an instinctual thing for him however; a planetary placement in the right spot could make him act very differently. It’s important to find out what his Rising sign or Moon sign is as it plays a role.
When A Pisces Man Goes Cold — What To Do?
If you love a Pisces man; you’ll need to understand that his moods change often and his ability to love is very strong. If he has said he loves you but gets cold on you; give him a little space.
Don’t fully pull out of the relationship; just tell him you can tell something is up and you don’t want to push so you’re going to pull back. That will get him thinking about what he’s doing or not doing.
It could result in a breakup if he feels it’s not right or it could result in him looking at his errors and fixing things with you to make them better. It’s a risk but one that could be well rewarded.
Ask him if there is anything you can do to help him or offer him; he will think the world of you for being so entirely sweet. This helps him open up where he might not otherwise.
If he’s going through a hard time and you can tell but he’s not being verbal about it, you can tell him, “I noticed that you’re maybe having a hard time. If you need me to help with anything, I’m here.”
You may also want to read: What To Do When A Pisces Man Does’t Want A Relationship
How To Handle A Pisces Man Being Cold All Of A Sudden?
You can tell him your viewpoint and ask him how he sees this relationship going, but ultimately, tell him that you’ll be there for him no matter what he does. This is a very important secret to a happy relationship with a Pisces man. Talk to each other about important things.
Make him feel like he’s in control, because if there’s chaos in a situation, Pisces will stay away from it at all costs. Once you have his mind, you will also have his heart. Keep the conversation alive, don’t sound needy or clingy. He wants ease in love—no hard talk, no judging, and no accusations.
Pisces man needs a partner who won’t rush him, who listens without judgment, and who also performs the way Pisces is expected to.
I know that you’re naturally loving because you’re here trying to learn how to understand him. And it can be confusing and frustrating when a Pisces man suddenly goes cold on you. But have you considered that he might be testing you?
The video below features seven ways in which Pisces men test you and how to overcome those tests:
Pisces Man Disappears After Intimacy — What Can You Do?
The Pisces man in general needs encouragement almost constantly in his life. His sex life is no different. He craves pleasure in physical touch. This guy is pretty incredible inside and outside the bedroom. It is very easy to fall in love with a Pisces man because he is so intuitive and emotionally intelligent. You can only imagine how this translates into the bedroom.
The Pisces man is a bit of an enigma when it comes to sex. He has many different roles he likes to play in the bedroom. At first, you might think he is incredibly shy and reserved, but the more you sleep with him, the more you’ll notice he definitely knows his way around the bedroom because his moves are magical!
This makes him open to trying new things and perhaps answers your question about why Pisces are so cold.
The thing is, he wants to do it all the time. The funny thing is that he talks a lot about sex but seems to not have much of it unless the right woman blows his mind in the sack.
If a Pisces man disappears after intimacy, avoid calling him and flooding his inbox with messages. He needs time to reflect on his emotions and thoughts.
However, if his disappearance has made you confused, you should communicate openly about it. Tell him how you feel, be calm, and ask him to explain his behavior. Don’t jump to conclusions and assume the worst!
If you want to keep him in a relationship with you alone, you had better be prepared to keep the fires burning in intimacy. When he becomes bored, he shuts off and would just rather not bother.
FAQ On Pisces Man Hot And Cold Behavior
Are you struggling to figure out what to do about your Pisces man and will he come back after the breakup?
Well, luckily for you I have compiled a list of questions that might come up in your relationship. Hopefully, this can help you navigate the difficult times you might experience with your Pisces man.
How Do You Know If A Pisces Man Has Feelings For You?
If he calls you and texts you, if he initiates conversations and makes time to be with you, you can be sure that Pisces man has feelings for you.
He will want to spend more time with you thus asking you out or asking you to do more things with him. He wants to get closer to you and get to know you better.
Pisces man wants to be around the woman he likes as often as he can because he enjoys that time plus he is trying to determine if you’re the soul mate he’s been looking for.
What Turns A Pisces Man Off?
Lack of spirituality and cold approach are number one Pisces man’s turn offs! Check here what else turns a Pisces man off <<
Pisces man wants to have a meaningful connection with his perfect lady. It’s important for him to be able to share this side of himself with someone who “gets” him. If that’s not there, he can’t fully engage.
Also, he will not be interested in a woman who is not capable of creating a romantic connection.
Will A Pisces Man Tell You He’s Not Interested?
Pisces man is a very sensitive man, and as such, he doesn’t want to be a part of conflicts and confrontations. That means he will not tell you if he is not interested in you but will rather leave you wondering and trying to figure it out for yourself.
He is highly emotional and would rather avoid discomfort than hit you with the truth! This is why Pisces are so secretive.
Read next: Why Are Pisces Men So Confusing And Not Straight Up About Their Feelings?
Stop Crying Yourself To Sleep About Your Pisces Man…
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Pisces man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Pisces guys. I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her.
She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.
As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that.
But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him.
Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work.
She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language <<
And it worked!!
So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Pisces man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…
>> Go here now and learn to speak your Pisces man’s love language.
xoxo, Anna
I was dating a Pisces man we were so much in love then he was diagnosed with stage 4 Cancer at first he asked me if I can Handel him not talking to him for awhile I told him I will try then with in two weeks I call him I said I was sorry for calling him n he said it’s ok then he says when I feel better I will call you then he tell me it’s time to let go n I said what happened with last week then he didn’t answer me then he deleted me off of fb then had his daughter’s deleted me too so I didn’t talk to him for a month Then I find out from friends that he was in the hospital so I freak out n text him do u want to talk no answer then I text him n say this is killing me I love you n need to know what happened to us still no answer then I text him n I say I know u told me not to call you but I need to know if I hurt you or your family in any way that you deleted me off of fb then u have your daughters do it to then u posted a picture of you on fb that u was in the hospital Then I have all of our friends calling me n texting me asking what happened to him n I tell them that he isn’t talking to me they ask y I have to say I have no fucking clue I don’t know what I did he doesn’t text me back so I wait two days n text him I am sorry for the texts I love you please please take care of yourself I understand Then out of the blue he texts me and says hi how r u doing I say ok n u and he says good days n bad days in hospital for 12 days I say I hope more good then bad he says the same he says in the hospital blood count was low so I ask is it ok now n he says yes I say that’s a good sign how is your chemo doing sick then I ask when is his chemo again he said in two weeks I say I miss you he sends me a picture of him I say Awe Then he says I think for now u need to move on I say my heart tells me different he says good night I say forever r we done He said I think so I need a lot of time I say I will always be here for you No answer
Hi Debbie!
He is overwhelmed with all that is going on with him. Pisces can only take so much and really by you texting him so often, he’s feeling pressured and bombarded while he is dealing with so much already. What he is dealing with is VERY difficult sweetheart. Try for a moment to think from his perspective about what he’s living with and going through and ask yourself if you could handle someone sending you a bunch of texts expressing their feelings. He cannot deal with anyone else’s feelings when he already has to deal with his and his family’s. I hope this makes sense. Give him time and space. He may come back around if he pulls through this. Send him some prayers.
Meet a Pisces man in March. We were texting for about a week and then he asked me out. It started where I was seeing him twice a week. One night we were having a conversation and I asked him had he been intimate with anyone since we had become intimate and he said yes and it was the day after we first were intimate. I was a little taken back but, I got over it and wanted to see where this went. He texts me every day but, now he has no time for me I haven’t seen him in 3 weeks we have facetime maybe 4 times during the 3 weeks. He says he’s busy with work and just life events. Yesterday I asked him if I could come by his place since I was close literally 10 min and he said he was tired and going to bed. I asked him was he avoiding me and he said no he told me he was just really busy and I need to stop overthinking. I then asked him has he had sex with anyone in the 3 weeks I haven’t see him and he told me yes that it was the same woman from the last time and that he did it because it was more convenient for him to get sex from her. He was very cold about it and told me it is what it is. I feel like he wants me to just end things because he had no remorse or even cared that I was upset about it. We’ve only been dating for 2 months and I don’t know if I should walk away or stick around to see if he will commit to me. I don’t bombard him with texts or calls I’m actually a busy person myself but, I make time for him a little more than he does for me. His 33 y/o and I’m 41 y/o and I’m an Aries sun, Capricorn Moon, and Taurus Rising. Should I just move one?
Hi Carrie Smith!
Oh honey… he sounds completely indecisive and non-committal. I’m not sure if this guy is worth your while. If he’s getting sex with other women then he’s definitely not even close to wanting a relationship. You can try asking him for exclusivity without the actual “commitment” to see if he bites but I think you deserve a man who is into you only and will do anything to be with you. Get on with your own path and take care of yourself sweetheart. You deserve the moon and then some! I wish you the best!
Hi Anna. I’ve been in an exclusive relationship with a Pisces man born in March. Everything at the beginning was so great. He was really loving and working so hard to be with me and stay with me. We’ve had some problems, such as me being insecure and not trusting him a bit. I met him through my best friend(a male), who I think got me not trusting him because of the things he claimed to know about him. Long story short. He broke up with me recently, saying he has a lot to deal with personally and can’t focus on both(his life and our relationship). He said he needs space. But he doesn’t want to cut off contact. I’m so confused!
Hi Lettie!
That sounds pretty typical of a Pisces man. They get overwhelmed and then start cutting off things problem by problem instead of dealing with it and facing the issues. He’s probably not lying when he says he can’t do his life and relationship at the same time. I hate hearing this for you sweetheart. Give him that space and go do your own thing. If he doesn’t want to cut off contact then you can still message him here and there but don’t make yourself available every single time for him. Maybe he does just need to figure out his life so he can get back on track and be with you. Please take care of yourself sweetheart!
I started to talk to a pisces man in 2020 march 30 in social media and we kept talking continuously for 2 years and then we met and he proposed me for an uncommitted relationship, I am a Scorpio by the way.. it was my first romantic partner ever . At the beginning I didn’t knew what was actually going as it is casual how much casual should I be and he was too good when ever he was around me, but as my characteristics I could not become vulnerable around him couldn’t said sweet stuffs like he did.. then he started to ignore me after a date where he said we have to be together for long time.. then things started to get off and on and later I got to know about zodiac sign and understood what is bothering him and later he confesssed why he behaved like that , what was wrong with me but then I tried hard and I keep up with him then things went off on again but this October 4 I had a great date with him after that we met once and I came home and he asked to break every relationship with me.. because he don’t want to have short time relationship.. I am trying to be so sweet to him, being vulnerable and he just being cold with me, he just mind his business and show that he doesn’t care about me.. I want to leave him but he was my best friend, he is not like this I know .. I really don’t know what should I do.
I have been in a relationship for 4 mo with a 50 yr old friendship. 50 yrs ago he was going to ask me to marry him but did not as he was being shipped to VN and he didn’t want to make me a widow.I had no idea he was so serious,we wrote a few times,I got married,let him know,he continued to do tours to Iraq and VN as a helicopter pilot and gunner.He returned home looked me up and we remained close friends,my husband was aware he was part of my marriage deal,he drove a truck and would take hauls that were close to me so we could see eachother,he had also married shortly after his return,there was never a romance from me,however he stated being in love with me often. We lost track of eachother in 2014,he hired a detective but was unable to find my location so he stopped. He’s been married 50yrs my marriage for 53 until he passed in 23.Sometime after his death I had a dream of my friend passing,I didn’t know it was a dream as it was very very real-I researched his name,it did appear but very strange information, I found his cousin and contacted him for clarification.I found out he was quite a live and was given my number.he contacted me,we met briefly,he kissed me but the first thing he said was he would not leave her,(wife) and continued to try to kiss me,we parted,he called and said he was at a doctor appointment would be in a hotel all night if I cared to join him,he assured nothing would happen, I joined him.it very quickly became physical it was as if there was magic in the room,I had never planned for anything to happen but it certainly did, he never said anything except for remembering his thoughts and feelings,he is a man of few words,it is a long distance relationship,I am the other women who hopes he will change his mind about not leaving his wife,has been a loveless marriage for over 40hrs, but he reminds me of his commitment,he feels he owes her and needs to take care of her,our sexuall experience is like no other and my 50yr old friendship has indeed turned into a hopeless love situation. He is sooooooo hot and cold,I feel he won’t let me in ,he states having a special love for me-what does that mean?? I have no idea what’s on his mind nor his feelings, we have connected so well at times than there is nothing,I don’t want to back him into a corner but I am truly clueless about his feelings, he has told me I should continue on dating as he has no right asking me not to,is this his way of getting rid of me or is he just that empathetic to my needs,he won’t tell me he loves me yet continues to want to get together m,he wants to know I love him.hell never even separate from his loveless marriage and I need to move on right, that is my fear as I love this man with all my heart and I’m a Gemini so it’s been a real battle for me, while making love he has me so elevated in emotion and doing things I’ve never done even with my husband I’m always in disbelief after.I am pretty much aware of my hooked situation just was hoping maybe for a new strategy m,thanks so muchm