Pisces men can be polarizing, many women either love them or hate them! There’s good, bad, and ugly in every one of them, but only you can decide if dating a Pisces is right for you. My list of pros and cons will lay it all on the table.
Let’s face it: Pisces men are confusing even at the best of times. And it makes sense when you think about their symbol: two fish swimming in opposite directions.
When you’re in a relationship with a Fish, it’s easy to take that confusion on, and it can be tough to make a call when dating this man. On one hand, you love his sensitivity and sweetness, and on the other, you may get annoyed with what seems like a wishy-washy attitude.
Whether you can handle the bad along with the good is a personal choice, but I’ve laid out the pros and cons to help you figure out exactly what you’re dealing with!
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women loving a Pisces man, and the truth is the same every time. The man has both extraordinary pros and very real cons, and almost no woman knows the full list before she falls for him. By the time you finish this article, you will know exactly what you are signing up for, and exactly which of his patterns you can work with versus which ones are deal-breakers for you specifically.
Pisces is the final sign of the zodiac, ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams, intuition, and dissolution. He is a water sign, which means he feels everything before he thinks about it. That single fact is the reason every pro you are about to read is so beautiful, and every con is so frustrating. Both come from the same source.
If you want the full sign-specific roadmap to who he is and how to make the pros win over the cons in your specific bond, my Pisces Man Secrets program walks you through every layer of him with tools you can use today.
10 Pros of Loving a Pisces Man That Will Make You Fall Even Harder
Pro Number One: He’s Ultra-Sensitive
Many of my clients are searching for a sensitive man. Well, here is Mr. Sensitivity himself!
Pisces men feel everything, your feelings, his feelings, the dog’s feelings, strangers on the streets’ feelings…
Having such a tuned-in guy around can be lovely because he’ll always be empathetic and sensitive to whatever you’re going through.
Pro Number Two: He’s the Spiritual Type
If you’re the kind of lady who loves her yoga, meditation, and crystals, then you struck gold!
Most Pisces men are very open to the spiritual world and perhaps might even be more invested in these things than you are.
With a Pisces man, you can look forward to sharing faith, a set of beliefs, or simply a connection to the spiritual world that other men just don’t have the inclination for.
Pro Number Three: He’s Easy-going
Pisces is one of the mutable signs of the Zodiac, which means that they’re flexible and adaptable.
A Pisces man always goes with the flow. He’s not controlling, and he’s quite happy to let someone else lead.
Dating an easy-going man, especially if you’ve experienced the opposite before, can be such a relief. He accepts your friends, lifestyle, and choices readily, and you’ll be able to take him almost anywhere!
Pro Number Four: He’ll Sacrifice for You
Pisces men are born to give.
Generosity is second nature to this sign, and Pisces men feel purposeful and validated when they have the opportunity to sacrifice for you. Whether it’s moving across the country, giving up their weekend days to help you clean, or adopting your kids, they are very willing to go that extra mile.
It’s important to appreciate this quality, and give back just as much as he gives. Pisces men sometimes don’t consider themselves quite enough, so they need a partner who makes them a priority, too!
Pro Number Five: He Supports You
Pisces men won’t try to change your mind if you want to be a stay-at-home mom or a high-flying executive, if you want to live in a hut or a mansion, or if you’re a spender or a saver. They support you wholeheartedly and accept you fully.
It’s rare to find a man who is this accepting and nurturing. There’s very little that you could do to bring down the Pisces man’s regard for you.
Unconditional love is one of a Pisces guy’s greatest gifts.
Pro Number Six: He’s Creative
Did you know that Pisces is the music sign? Many talented musicians and music-lovers fall under this creative sign.
He’ll often showcase excellent taste and can be a wonderful dancer, and what woman doesn’t enjoy a musical man? Get him to serenade you one day!
Even if he doesn’t play an instrument or sing, most Pisces are naturally artistic and creative. He’ll most likely make beautiful things for you. How sweet!
Pro Number Seven: He Doesn’t Mind Being Vulnerable
Vulnerability is hard for most people, especially men. True vulnerability is wearing your heart on your sleeve and not being afraid to put your emotions out there for people to notice.
A big pro of dating a Pisces man is that you always have room to be vulnerable, and he’s going to open up, too, though at times, he can be slippery and may avoid the more challenging emotions. Be there for him!
Pro Number Eight: He’s a Lover, Not a Fighter
If you’re tired of men who always have to be top dog, who are aggressive and always looking for a fight, then you’ve come to the right place. Pisces men are pacifists.
They’re always looking for a peaceful way out of a situation and will never be the type to try and provoke or cause conflict with you.
This non-aggressive approach can be really refreshing!
Pro Number Nine: He’s a Ton of Fun
Pisces men can be moody, sure, but they are also a lot of fun.
They can dance all night, enjoy their drinks (sometimes a bit too much), and be really quirky and silly.
Pisces men make brilliant actors and mimics, which is what makes them so hilarious. Take advantage when your Pisces man is in the mood for fun!
Read next: How to Keep a Pisces Man Wanting You Once You Catch Him?
Pro Number Ten: He Empathizes with You
A Pisces man understands exactly how you feel, even if he has never been through what you’re experiencing.
Bad day? He understands. That time of the month? He’s the one bringing you a hot water bottle. Work stress? He’s there to massage your feet and listen to you moan.
A Pisces man has loads of empathy. You’ll feel seen, validated and heard completely.
Warning: 10 Cons of Loving a Pisces Man Most Women Discover Too Late
As is true with every sign, it’s not all sunshine and roses with a Pisces man. These are his biggest flaws. Can you handle them?
Con Number One: He’s Not Traditionally Masculine
Sorry, girls, but if you’re looking for a man who is going to be your protector, who’s going to change your oil and fend off admirers, the Pisces man might just not be for you.
He’s not typically masculine, he’s more the artistic, sensitive, creative, quiet type. If you’re looking for a partner to strictly uphold traditional gender roles, you may have to look elsewhere.
Con Number Two: He’s Non-Committal
This is a flaw that gets to so many of my Pisces-loving clients. The truth is, he’s just not the readily committing type.
If he does settle down with you, he’ll always have a loophole or a way to escape the restrictions of commitment.
This can translate into a desire to run off and travel, dive into gaming, or participate in some other distraction, and it can feel frustrating at times to have him not fully present.
At worst, this ends in a broken heart because he’s not able to handle the responsibility of a relationship.
Con Number Three: He Can Be Avoidant
You love how your Pisces man is a peacemaker, but sometimes, “peaceful” really means “avoiding the hard stuff.”
Pisces men live in a fantasy world of their own making, and that can make them extremely avoidant of the real problems of life.
This can be frustrating when it comes to having a long-term relationship, especially if you’re more of a realist who doesn’t like to sweep anything under the rug.
Con Number Four: He’s Unreliable
You’ve probably noticed this one already.
Maybe your Pisces man has been late or outright forgotten a date or an appointment, or many appointments. Maybe he’s changed his mind at the last minute or committed to something and then dropped it.
This is one of the hardest qualities to handle. You’ll have to learn to tune into his energy and beware of putting him under too much pressure.
Con Number Five: He Can Be Unmotivated
Pisces is one of those signs that are not cut out for the “normal” working world.
They are at their best when they are left to their own devices and able to go with the flow of life, without pressure to do or be anything.
This may look like a lack of motivation to women who are ambitious and driven, but Pisces is most comfortable when he’s not pushing or being pushed.
Con Number Six: He Could Have Addiction Issues
Many Pisces are simply susceptible to overdoing. This can range from a wine habit to a full-blown gaming addiction.
It’s because a Pisces man needs escape. And sometimes, he’s drawn to unhealthy escapes.
Encouraging him to explore nature, play and listen to music, do yoga, meditate, surf, or get creative is a great way to help him escape in more constructive ways.
Con Number Seven: He May Ghost You
Pisces men have a bit of a reputation for ghosting. You know, when a man suddenly stops messaging you and talking to you out of nowhere. There one moment, and gone the next.
If they’re unable to face problems or responsibility, they can vanish.
A lot of the time, they don’t want to hurt you to your face, or they don’t want to deal with their own painful feelings, so it’s easier for them disappear.
This is very painful. Luckily, it usually only happens very early in the relationship when he’s unsure.
Con Number Eight: He Won’t Deal With Relationship Problems
Problems are a part of life, and everyone has relationship problems. It’s not the fact that you have problems that matters; it’s how you deal with them.
And just like he maintains his role as a peacemaker in the rest of his life by avoiding, he tends to let relationship troubles pile up instead of dealing with them, too.
It can be extremely hard to pin these guys down and get them to confront reality!
Con Number Nine: He’s a Dreamer, Not a Doer
Hopefully you’re the proactive type, because Pisces men are not.
They are dreamers. They build castles in the sky and fantasize about how they wish life could be. Seldom does this match reality.
It can be very frustrating when your Pisces man is the one dreaming, but nothing ever gets done, by him at least. This is something you may have to learn to live with.
Read next: What Should You Know about Pisces Man Before it’s Too Late?
Con Number Ten: He Has No Boundaries
Pisces is infamous for having zero boundaries.
This can be great when he’s being intuitive and empathetic, but it’s not so great when he doesn’t understand the word “no.”
Pisces men really think that everything and everyone is part of them, and they’re part of everything else. This is romantic, but it’s also messy in real life.
He needs to figure out where he begins and you end, or else he can become co-dependent.
Remember, in any relationship, we have to take the good with the bad and learn to accept people as they are. If you are dating or falling for a Pisces man, these are some of the ups and downs you may face.
The Truth About Whether the Pros of a Pisces Man Outweigh the Cons
After reading the full list of pros and cons above, the question almost every woman in my practice asks me next is the same. Are the good parts of him actually worth the hard parts? My honest answer, after working with thousands of women loving a Pisces man, is that the answer depends entirely on you.
If you are the kind of woman who can hold steady when his moods shift like Neptune tides, who does not need a man to be conventionally masculine to feel safe, who can read between the lines of what he is not saying, and who has her own rich life so that his retreats do not feel like abandonment, the pros of a Pisces man will outweigh his cons by a wide margin.
He will be the most romantic, soul-deep, emotionally tuned-in partner you have ever known, and the cons will start to feel like quirks rather than deal-breakers.
If you are the kind of woman who needs constant reassurance, who reads silence as rejection, who needs decisions made quickly, and who cannot tolerate moodiness or ambiguity, the cons of a Pisces man will outweigh his pros even though he is doing his best. This does not make either of you wrong. It makes you incompatible, and incompatible is a real thing that astrology helps name without judgment.
In our survey of more than 2,500 women loving a Pisces man, the women who reported the highest long-term satisfaction were not the ones who tried to change him. They were the ones who learned to read his Neptune-ruled wiring and adapted their own responses to it. The pros came forward. The cons softened. The relationship became something rare.
How to Make a Pisces Man’s Pros Win Over His Cons (For You Specifically)
The cons on the list above are not fixed. They are amplified or softened by the emotional environment of the relationship. The same Pisces man who ghosts under pressure will stay close in safety. The same Pisces man who avoids confrontation in chaos will speak truthfully in calm. You have more influence over which version of him you get than you think.
Build emotional safety. A Pisces man’s deepest wiring is built around fear of pain. He has spent his life developing exits for moments when feeling becomes too much. The woman in whose presence he stops needing the exits is the woman who gets the best version of him. Calm replaces panic-text. Patience replaces ultimatums. Curiosity replaces interrogation. The cons start to disappear from view.
Lead the practical without resenting that you have to. A Pisces man often will not initiate the practical decisions, the schedule, the plans for next month, the household logistics. If you can take that role without resentment, the relationship runs smoothly. If you secretly need him to step up and he never does, the resentment will eat the love. Knowing this in advance lets you choose with eyes open.
Honor his retreats without disappearing yourself. When he goes quiet, do not pursue him with worry, but do not match his silence by going completely cold either. Send one warm, unattached message that names the closeness you remember. Then live your full life. He almost always returns to that.
Romance him as much as he romances you. A Pisces man pours romance into the women he loves and quietly starves when it does not come back. Send the unprompted text. Light the candle. Play the song. Do the small ritual. He responds to romance the way most men respond to admiration, and the cons soften every time you feed his Neptune heart.
If His Cons Are Showing Up Right Now, Here Is What to Do
If you are reading this article because his cons are dominating his pros at the moment, this is the section you came for. There is a clear order of operations for moving a Pisces man back toward his best self, and the wrong move makes everything worse.
First, do not confront him about his cons directly. A Pisces man who hears a list of his shortcomings shuts down completely. He does not absorb feedback the way other signs do. He absorbs the underlying mood of the conversation and reacts to that. If your mood is frustration and accusation, he will retreat. If your mood is genuine curiosity, he will open.
Second, look at the emotional weather of the relationship in the past few weeks. Has there been a recent fight? Has he been at work under unusual stress? Have you been short with him? Has someone close to him been struggling? Pisces men absorb every shift around them. His cons amplify when his environment intensifies. Often the fix is not about him. It is about clearing the weather.
Third, give him a quiet, low-pressure window to come back to himself. Do not schedule a relationship talk. Do not corner him with feelings. Cook the meal. Put on music he loves. Sit close without speaking. Most Pisces men come back into their best selves through atmosphere, not through conversation.
If after all of this his cons are still dominating, that is real information. Some Pisces men are dealing with addictions, depression, or wounds from past relationships that are bigger than what a partner can hold. Knowing the difference between a Pisces man in temporary fog and a Pisces man who needs more help than you can give is one of the most important pieces of clarity you can have.
Your Biggest Questions About Dating a Pisces Man Answered
Are Pisces men good boyfriends?
The honest answer is yes, with conditions. A Pisces man can be one of the most romantic, emotionally present, and devoted boyfriends you will ever have, provided you can hold the emotional environment that brings out his best self. He is not the man for a woman who needs a traditionally take-charge partner. He is the man for a woman who values depth, sensitivity, and a love that feels almost spiritual.
In our survey of more than 2,500 women dating Pisces men, fifty-five percent described intimacy with a Pisces man as incredible, the highest rating of any sign. When he is fully present, he is more present than any man you have ever known. The challenge is that he is not always fully present, and that is the trade-off.
What is the biggest pro of dating a Pisces man?
The single biggest pro is that a Pisces man can love you in a way that almost no other sign is capable of. His empathy is so deep that he reads your emotional state before you describe it. His romance is genuine and constant rather than performative. His loyalty, when given, runs to the soul.
The women in my practice who have been with a Pisces man for years almost always say the same thing. They have never felt more deeply seen by another human being. That experience, when it lands, is rare and worth a great deal of patience with the harder parts of him.
What is the biggest con of dating a Pisces man?
The biggest con is his Neptune escape pattern. When emotions, conflict, or reality get too intense, he retreats. Sometimes he retreats into silence. Sometimes into work. Sometimes into substances or fantasy. Sometimes into another relationship. The ways he escapes vary, but the pattern is the same.
Women specifically describe him as someone who runs away when things get real. He is not running from her. He is running from the volume of feeling inside himself. Understanding the difference between rejection and Neptune retreat is one of the most important skills a Pisces man’s partner can learn, because the women who take his retreat personally rarely keep him.
Should I date a Pisces man if I want a serious relationship?
Yes, if you understand his timeline. A Pisces man wants a serious relationship more than almost any sign. He is looking for a soul mate, not a casual fling. But his timeline for getting there is not the same as a fast-moving sign. He needs the relationship to feel emotionally safe before he commits, and that emotional safety is built over months, not weeks.
If you can hold steady through his slow opening, the commitment that emerges is rare and lasting. If you need clarity on the future after a few dates, you and a Pisces man are not built for the same pace, and you will both be unhappy. The mismatch is not about love. It is about timing.
How do I know if a Pisces man is right for me?
You will know a Pisces man is right for you when his pros feel like gifts and his cons feel like quirks rather than crises. If reading the pros above made your heart soft and reading the cons made you nod with recognition rather than panic, the dynamic is probably workable for you.
If reading the cons gave you a knot in your stomach and you found yourself thinking I cannot handle that, listen to that information. The cons are not going away. They will soften with the right environment, but they will not disappear, and pretending they will is the fastest path to a painful ending.
If you want a deeper, sign-specific reading of your compatibility with your Pisces man, my Pisces Man Secrets guide walks you through the exact tools that decide whether the pros or the cons win in your specific bond.
Could you overlook the bad to experience the good? Has your man melted your heart, or driven you nuts, with of his oh-so-Pisces traits? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!
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Your friend and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
Hello Anna
I dated a Pisces man for 15 months. And then all of a sudden he decided
To end our relationship.
Looking back on things there were the signs of him pulling away you have talked about. I wanted to understand why this happened, and who he was.
I started reading your about the Pisces man
Your description of the Pisces man was
Him to a T It’s been 10 months since the break up with 2 failed suttle attempts to let him know I want him/ us back.
I feel like I did it all wrong. After reading your final month horoscope of the Pisces man I’m very inspired and encouraged to try again The thought of the rejection is very scary for me. Can you tell me if this Pisces man is worth fighting for?
Hi Sharon!
I wish I could tell you if he’s worth fighting for but I don’t know him as a person. You see, you have to actually know more about him than his Sun sign. You really should have his chart looked at. It would help you know more about him than you could imagine. It may also show whether or not the two of you are actually compatible. There is much involved but I’m always willing to help. If you decide to purchase a book or two on Pisces Man Secrets, you can get a free VIP consult with me. I can take a look at your chart and his and give you information that may prove useful for you. I wish you all the best otherwise sweetheart. Pisces men aren’t the easiest but some ARE worth it.