7 Tips to Move on From a Breakup with a Pisces Man

Ouch! Breakups hurt. There’s nothing quite as painful as having your heart broken. And when your breakup is with a Pisces guy, it can be double-sore, as he’s usually the type to “ghost” or run away from resolution. How can you move on and open your heart to new love, especially if you don’t have closure? Here’s some heart-healing advice.

No matter how many years I have behind me as a relationship astrologer, it always hurts to see a client go through a breakup.

It can be difficult to see the forest for the trees when your heart is cracked in two, and it’s oh-so-tempting to backtrack and try to make things work.

But when you know that it’s not meant to be, you’ve got to try and move on. As they say, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and your Pisces ex is no longer one of them.

We all have coping mechanisms that work for us when we need to move on from a split, but did you know that there are ways to help yourself let go of specific Zodiac signs?

I’ve got you covered. There are some things about a Pisces man that you’ll miss, and these are some great solutions to filling the hole in your heart until you’re ready to love again:

In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women loving a Pisces man, and the women who come to me after a breakup carry a particular kind of grief. The connection felt almost spiritual. The intimacy felt rare. And then he was gone, sometimes without explanation.

If that is where you are right now, I want you to know two things. The pain you are feeling is real, and you can absolutely heal from it without hardening your heart. The seven tips below are the proven ones, and the brand new sections after them go even deeper.

Pisces is the final sign of the zodiac, ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams, dissolution, and depth. Loving a Pisces man rewires your nervous system. Healing from him takes a very specific kind of process, one that honors the depth of what was lost while also turning you toward the light he can no longer hold for you.

If you want a deeper sign-specific roadmap to understanding what really happened and what your next chapter could look like, my Pisces Man Secrets program walks you through every layer of him with tools you can use today.

7 Tips to Move on From a Breakup with a Pisces Man

1. Develop a Spiritual Connection

Pisces men are ultra-spiritual, and not always in a straightforward way. You may miss that easy spiritual connection you got through him. So why not develop your own beliefs and faith?

That may mean joining a local spiritual group, whether it’s a related to a mainstream religion or a less traditional group, or even meditation, let yourself learn. Developing a higher connection during a breakup can be one of the best things for your heart and help you to see that some things are just not meant to be.

In the process, you’ll make strong community connections that can heal you during a tough time. You may even find that once the pain is over, you enjoy being part of something so much that you make this a part of your life for the long term.

2. Practice Yoga

If you’re not the type to enjoy more structured spirituality, then another way to get in touch with your spiritual side is through yoga.

Maybe you already practice, and it’s fallen by the wayside. Or maybe you’ve always been too scared to try. Whatever your yoga fitness is, let this be the time you fall in love with this practice! Download a free app, or join your local studio (better if you want the connection of a like-minded community) for your yoga fix.

Not only will you work many of the painful emotions through your body, but you’ll also feel better physically, and maybe even meet a new man who can share your passion for yoga with you when you’re ready.

And you’ll also get the benefits of meditation, a sure-fire way to deal with painful thoughts of the past.

3. Listen to Music

Pisces men love music. You’ve probably been introduced to loads of new tunes through your Pisces man, and maybe you found a new appreciation for music because of him, perhaps he even played an instrument.

Now that he’s out of the picture, you can get back to your own musical tastes, and maybe find some new artists who don’t remind you of your relationship.

This may mean that you re-organize your Spotify account to reflect more of who you are, or pick up an instrument. You could go out dancing, to a festival, or jump around in your living room. You may sing in your car or in the shower or while you’re typing away on your laptop.

In other words, dive into your music. Music is one of the greatest healers and will help you through some of your toughest days.

4. Cry It Out

Whether you’re sweating at the yoga studio or dancing to music, or maybe just curled up on the couch, cry it out. Let all the tears fall and try not to hold back or beat yourself up for feeling your feelings.

There’s no shame in tears.

Crying it out also means allowing any anger to come to the surface and be processed. Maybe you need to scream, shout, smash a plate, or play angry music, really loud! Every emotion is allowed, even the most negative ones.

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5. Realize He Was Never Going to Commit

The painful truth is that Pisces men are difficult to pin down, and they really do struggle to commit. They always need some kind of escape route, and perhaps this was his final way of slipping out of the responsibility of a long-term relationship.

Once you realize that he wasn’t the man to give you the security you deserve, you can begin to release him. You can start opening your heart to the possibility that there is certainly someone out there who is willing to step in and be that rock for you.

Remember, you deserve someone who is wholeheartedly committed to you.

6. Ghost Him Right Back

Pisces men are the masters of ghosting. If you haven’t heard of it, it’s as the name says, disappearing without a trace.

Ghosting is incredibly hard to experience. He’s doing it to avoid the unpleasant emotions and responsibilities that come with a breakup, and it can be seen as cowardly.

Do not chase after him or beg for closure. He will avoid you all the more. Instead, learn to do the same, even if it’s unlike you. He won’t come back, so it’s not a game; it’s just a method for you to withdraw emotionally.

Delete his number, unfollow him on social media, block his email address, and store your photos somewhere where you can only look at them far in the future if you so choose. Pretend he never existed for now and get on with your life.

Soon, he really will disappear from your heart and give you space to love again!

Read next: Does Your Pisces Man Miss You? 5 Ways To Tell

7. Feel Relief That He’s No Longer Weighing You Down

Some Pisces men need to be rescued all the time. This is the most frustrating part of dating this sign.

Now, there’s no one to be rescued but yourself. You are the one in charge of your own destiny, and you no longer have to take responsibility for him. You no longer have to carry the weight of someone who doesn’t want to deal with his own issues.

You are free! And with that freedom comes a sense of lightness and joy, which every man will be attracted to.

Why a Breakup With a Pisces Man Hurts Differently Than Other Breakups

If this breakup feels heavier than any breakup you have lived through before, you are not imagining it. A breakup with a Pisces man genuinely hits differently, and once you understand why, you can stop blaming yourself for the depth of what you are feeling.

Pisces is ruled by Neptune, the planet of dissolved boundaries. When a Pisces man loves you, he does not maintain a clean separation between his energy and yours. He merges with you. He absorbs you. He folds his interior world around the shape of you. So when the relationship ends, you are not just losing a partner. You are losing the version of yourself that was woven into him, and the part of him that was woven into you. That kind of unwinding takes real time.

In our survey of more than 2,500 women loving a Pisces man, fifty-five percent described the intimacy as incredible, the highest rating of any sign. Thirty-one percent said the connection was real and is now fading rather than gone, also one of the highest of any sign. Both of those numbers tell the same story. Pisces men create the rarest kind of bond, and rare bonds leave the deepest grief when they break.

The other reason this hurts differently is that Pisces breakups often come without clean closure. He may have ghosted. He may have offered a vague reason that did not match the depth of what you shared. He may have promised to stay friends and then disappeared. Closure with a Pisces man is something you usually have to give yourself, because he is rarely able to give it to you.

That alone is its own grief, and it is real, and it deserves to be acknowledged before you can move past it.

How to Heal From a Pisces Man Breakup Without Hardening Your Heart

The hardest part of a Pisces breakup is healing without becoming bitter. The depth of what you experienced was real, and the temptation to protect yourself by deciding you will never love that openly again is strong. But that response costs you the rest of your life. There is a softer way through.

Let yourself feel the full size of the loss. Do not minimize it. Do not tell yourself it was only a few months or only a fling. The relationship was as deep as it was, and pretending otherwise blocks the healing. Let yourself cry. Let yourself sit with the ache. The fastest way through Neptune grief is straight through it, not around it.

Stay close to people who can hold steady in the presence of your sadness. Friends who let you be sad without trying to fix you. A therapist who specializes in attachment. A women’s circle. Anyone whose presence does not require you to perform okayness while you are healing. Pisces grief specifically responds to being witnessed.

Reconnect with the parts of you that existed before him. The friends he never met. The hobbies you set aside. The version of you that was already whole. A Pisces man often becomes such a complete world that you forget you had a world before him. Going back to your own first life is one of the most healing things you can do.

Do not date too soon, but also do not vow to stay alone forever. The middle path is the right one. Take a few months of intentional solitude. Meet people lightly when you are ready. Trust that you will know when your heart is open again, and trust that the next love does not have to look like the last one to be real.

When You Should Consider Reaching Out to Your Pisces Ex (and When You Should Not)

Almost every woman healing from a Pisces breakup has the same question at some point. Should I reach out? Sometimes the answer is yes. Most often the answer is no. Knowing which version of the situation you are in saves you weeks or months of unnecessary pain.

You should consider reaching out only if all of the following are true. The breakup was not abusive in any form. He has not blocked you. You have already had at least sixty days of full no contact. You have done real grief work in those sixty days. You can articulate clearly to yourself why reaching out would serve your healing rather than restart the loop. And you can accept any response, including silence, without it sending you backward.

If even one of those is not true, do not reach out yet. Especially do not reach out from longing, from a hard night, from a song that played, or from a dream you had. A Pisces man is unusually good at appearing back in your life when you stop reaching for him. The women in my practice who hear from their Pisces ex weeks or months after letting go almost always say the same thing. He came back the moment she stopped chasing.

You should not reach out if any of the following is happening. He left in a way that crossed your boundaries or hurt you deeply. You are still in the daily-cry phase of grief. You are using the idea of reaching out to avoid the harder work of feeling the loss. He has someone new. Or you are hoping the message will be the magic spell that brings him back, because that hope is the trap.

The hardest truth I share with women in my practice is that whether your Pisces man comes back is rarely about what you say to him. It is about what you do with the version of yourself that he loved while he was around. If she comes back to her own light, he often returns. If she stays small and wounded, he rarely does. Healing yourself is the most powerful thing you can do for either outcome.

Your Biggest Questions About Moving On From a Pisces Man Answered

How long does it take to get over a Pisces man?

The honest answer is longer than most other signs. The intensity of the bond means the unwinding takes more time. Most women in my practice describe the acute phase of grief as lasting three to six months, with a softer second phase of integration that can last another six to twelve months.

The variables that shorten the healing window are real grief work, real support, and resisting the urge to either chase him or freeze him entirely out of your psyche. The variables that lengthen it are checking his social media, replaying the relationship in your head, and keeping the door open just in case. The cleaner you can be with the grief, the faster the healing.

Do Pisces men come back after a breakup?

Often, yes. Returning is almost the defining Pisces pattern. He retreats, he processes, he misses you, he comes back. But there is no clean rule about timing. Some Pisces men reach out within weeks. Others reappear after a year. Some never come back. The variable is not how he felt about you, which was usually real. The variable is how much pain he associated with the relationship, and how long it takes him to process that.

The mistake is to organize your healing around whether he will come back. Heal as if he never will. If he does, you will meet him as a whole woman who can choose whether to let him back in. If he does not, you will be a whole woman who built a beautiful life either way. That posture protects you in every direction.

What is the no contact rule with a Pisces man?

The no contact rule means a complete pause in communication for a defined period of time, usually thirty to ninety days. With a Pisces man, no contact often does pull him back, because the loss of you registers in his nervous system as soon as your absence becomes real to him.

The catch is that no contact only works as a healing tool if you are doing it for yourself, not as a tactic to make him come back. Pisces men have an almost uncanny ability to feel the energy behind your silence. Strategic silence with a hidden hope feels different to him than genuine silence rooted in self-respect. Only the second one tends to draw him back, and only the second one heals you regardless of what he does.

Why did my Pisces man break up with me suddenly?

Sudden Pisces breakups almost always have an emotional trigger that built up quietly over time. He may have been carrying a fear, an unspoken hurt, a feeling of being misunderstood, or a sense of being overwhelmed for weeks or months before the breakup. Then something tipped him over the edge and he ended it.

The breakup felt sudden to you because he did not say any of it out loud while it was building. That is not your failure to read him. That is his Neptune-ruled tendency to absorb emotion until it overflows, then to act decisively to escape the overflow. Understanding this is not a defense of how he handled it. It is simply a frame that lets you stop blaming yourself for missing signals he did not give.

Will I ever love someone the way I loved my Pisces man?

Yes, but probably not in the same shape. The depth you are capable of loving with did not come from him. It came from you. He may have been the first man who saw it and met it, but the depth itself is yours. The next person who can meet you there will be different in many ways, and the love you build with him will have its own particular shape.

What I have seen in my practice over and over is that women who fully heal from a Pisces man often say later that the next love was deeper, calmer, and more sustainable. The Pisces relationship was the one that opened the door. The next relationship is the one that walks through it with you.

If you want a deeper sign-specific reading of your bond with your Pisces ex and a clear sense of whether the relationship is truly over or simply paused, my Pisces Man Secrets guide walks you through every possibility with tools designed for this exact moment.

Have you had your heart broken by a Pisces man? What are some of you best tips for moving forward and opening to new love? Share your story with me, I would love to hear your anonymous experience.

Stay strong!

Your friend and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach