Pisces Men are as elusive and slippery as fish , just as their symbol suggests! To get him to stick around (and maybe even fall in love) you need the right questions to ask a Pisces man. Read on for the top questions that melt his heart.
Pisces men, you either love them or hate them! They’re gentle, sweet and oh-so-charming, but they can be hard to pin down. Here one day and gone the next, I like to say, with their magnetic sensitivity often leaving quite an impression!
However, the Pisces man falls in love easily. He has such a huge capacity for devotion that it just takes a little effort to get him to go gaga for you! And, when armed with just the right questions designed to help him open up about his feelings (usually so close to the surface but hard for him to show), you’ll leave him wanting much more of you!
Pisces men are all about romance, creativity, and devotion. They are as adaptable as a chameleon, but there are a few core character traits that define these ethereal guys. And when you tap into these characteristics, you’ll soon see that there are some things that they all have in common!
I’ve worked with countless ladies hoping to win the heart of a Pisces man. Here are the top seven topics of conversation, in my experience as a relationship astrologer, that can bring the two of you that much closer.
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women loving a Pisces man, and the same pattern shows up over and over. The right question, asked at the right moment, opens a Pisces man faster than any other approach. The wrong question makes him retreat. Knowing the difference is everything.
Pisces is the final sign of the zodiac, ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams, intuition, and dissolved boundaries. He does not connect through small talk. He connects through soul talk. The questions on this page are designed to bypass the surface of him and land on the inner world he keeps mostly hidden.
If you want the full sign-specific roadmap to who he is and how to speak directly to his Neptune-ruled heart in every conversation, my Pisces Man Secrets program walks you through every layer of him with tools you can use today.
What Do Pisces Men Like To Talk About?
Like I mentioned above, a Pisces man is really creative. He usually has a fond interest in the arts and has a few creative skills under his belt. Pisces men are often involved in some kind of artistic endeavor.
Be that with music, poetry, or even painting. Somehow, he lets his feelings show through the things he creates. This is often his passion and something he really enjoys talking about. His creative hobby is often the thing that will light up his face and make him excited to share.
There is also a side to him that is extremely spiritual, and he often will have a keen interest in some kind of spiritual practice. This is another one of his favorite topics to cover. A Pisces man loves to talk about the meaning of life.
How to Talk to a Pisces Man So He Actually Opens Up
When you first start dating a Pisces man, you might think, “what to talk about with a Pisces man?” But actually, you may be pleasantly surprised. A Pisces man is an open-minded man, and he has a variety of topics that pique his interest.
The Pisces man indulges in everything from arts, religion, politics, spirituality, and philosophy. No topic is too weird to broach with this man, and I bet you he has an opinion on everything you mention. A little tip I like to give is to look at his social media and see what he seems to post often.
This should give you a good indication about what a Pisces man likes to talk about, and then ask him questions about the things you know nothing about and see if your Pisces man can teach you a thing or two.
He is a fantastic teacher, so why not be his perfect student?
Take my free compatibility quiz here and see what the stars reveal about your relationship.
7 Questions To Ask A Pisces Man That Will Make Him Closer To You
There are a couple of questions you can ask a Pisces man that will make him feel special and cared for. This guy simply loves talking about his passions, especially when someone else takes an interest in them.
It will mean a lot to your Pisces guy if you take an interest in the things he cares about. This will definitely set you apart from the rest. After all, a Pisces man wants a deep bond and connection with the woman he is with, and one of the best ways to get to this point is through shared interests.
1. Ask Him About What Music He Loves
Pisces is well-known as the most musical of all the signs. He is often a musician himself, or he may just have a collection to rival the most avid audiophiles out there.
Music helps the Pisces guy to deal with uncomfortable feelings that he seldom expresses or deals with verbally.
When you’re with a Pisces guy, take the time to ask him about his favorite band or style of music. Go even further and ask him if he plays an instrument and if he’d be keen to teach you (wink, wink!). Volunteer to listen to his latest songs or albums, or exchange Spotify profiles.
He will definitely come back for more! This is one of the things Pisces guys love to talk about most.
2. Ask Him What He Believes In
This is one spiritual sign! Most Pisces people have some kind of faith or at least a belief in something bigger than them, even if it’s as simple (and as profound) as nature or the ocean (which he loves, by the way!). One of the best questions to ask a Pisces man is about his spirituality.
Offer some of your own insights and beliefs if you’re a spiritual gal. This is a man that you can freely talk to about yoga, meditation, reiki, or any other “new-age” modality you’ve explored. He will just love the closeness that comes from sharing a belief together or learning about yours.
He may even have very strong Christian beliefs or be invested in another mainstream religion. Any faith that emphasizes love at the center, as well as forgiveness and being rescued, will be appealing to this sensitive soul.
If you struggle to find ideas on how to bond with him on a deeper level, make sure you check my Pisces Love Language guide.
3. Ask Him Where He Wants to Travel
In traditional Astrology, Jupiter, planet of travel, was the ruler of Pisces. He still has some say over this expansive sign, and you’ll often find that Pisces men are born for a life of travel!
Pisces men are born travelers. They may even combine two loves, such as surfing and music, with traveling, which is basically their perfect life.
Ask him where he’s gone, and where he wants to go. Maybe you’ll find that you share a yearning to go to the same place, or that you could open each other’s minds to new possibilities.
This is a win-win if you’re someone that also loves to hit the road and see new places!
4. Ask Him About His Dreams
Pisces is an ultra-dreamy sign, not just in looks, but also in his character!
He loves to fantasize about the future, and many Pisces men are visionaries, sometimes to the point of being preternaturally intuitive!
Whether you’re hanging out or chatting via text, take a moment to ask him what his dreams, wishes, and hopes are for the future. Where does he see himself or the world going, and what is his greatest dream in life?
He’ll love that you are interested in something so close to his heart, and he may get quite poetic! It’s easy to be swept away by him, just as he will be by you! Taking an interest in his dreams is by far one of the best questions to ask a Pisces man. This will help the two of you grow much closer to one another.
5. Ask Him What (or Where) His Favorite Escape Is
Pisces is a sign that craves escape from the mundane.
Some of these escapes can be unhealthy, such as too much boozing or even drug abuse. If that’s the case, stay away, ladies. He can be toxic when he’s not conscious of his bad habits.
But, if you can see that’s not an issue for him, ask him what his favorite healthy escapes are. Maybe it’s nature, music, gaming (a favorite among Pisces men!), getting creative, surfing, or reading.
He’ll definitely have at least one way to switch off, and he’ll be eager to share it with you so that you can share his treasured experiences with him and escape together.
6. Ask Him About His Past
This is one sign that’s not afraid to talk about his past. In fact, he embraces it as part of who is he and what he’s learned from it.
Pisces men are often able to recall the past in great detail. You’ll be spellbound by his storytelling, and in the process, you’ll find out that much more about him.
And he’ll certainly want to know about you, too, it’s a perfect path to bonding.
7. Ask Him How He Feels
Because Pisces is a water sign, they’re all about emotions and feelings. However, Pisces men, and women, often either avoid difficult emotions or drown in them. When he’s sad, he’s deeply sad, and when he’s happy, he’s ecstatic!
This man can be moody. Sometimes, he’s not even aware of his feelings. Asking him how he’s doing on a regular basis in a gentle, empathetic way can bring him so much closer to you and fast-track the two of you to a deep trust.
Sharing feelings together will open up new possibilities for vulnerability, which is the basis for any relationship.
And when you’re vulnerable, you’re able to connect more easily, and that often leads to love!
Read next: 7 Pisces Man Traits That Will Help You Understand His Behavior
Why the Right Questions Open a Pisces Man Faster Than Anything Else
Most men open up when you give them space and wait. A Pisces man is different. He opens up when he feels seen, and the fastest way to make him feel seen is to ask him a question that proves you are paying attention to the layer of him most people never notice.
Neptune wires him to live partly in his interior world. He is always thinking about something deeper than what is happening on the surface. When you ask him about that deeper layer, when you make space for the dream, the song, the spiritual question, the half-finished idea, you are speaking the language his soul actually uses.
He will lean toward you the way he never leans toward anyone who only asks him about his job and his weekend plans.
In our survey of more than 2,500 women loving a Pisces man, sixty-six percent reported deep, sustained eye contact with him, the highest of any sign. That eye contact is the visible part of his attention. The invisible part is his attention turning inward, looking for something real to share. The right question gives him permission to share it. The wrong question reminds him that most people will not understand if he tries.
The questions on this page are not random. They are calibrated to land on the layer of him that opens, not the layer that defends.
5 Flirty Questions to Ask a Pisces Man Over Text
Texting a Pisces man requires a softer touch than texting most signs. He reads the energy underneath your words almost more than the words themselves. The questions below are designed to land warmly, create the kind of curiosity he cannot resist, and pull him toward you without ever feeling pushed.
What song are you listening to right now? A Pisces man’s relationship with music is intensely private and intensely meaningful. Asking what is in his ears at this moment opens a door to his actual emotional state, because what he is listening to is almost always what he is feeling. His answer will tell you more about his real mood than any direct question about feelings would.
What is the most beautiful thing you saw today? This question presupposes that he notices beauty, which a Pisces man absolutely does. He will pause before answering, because he wants to give you something real. The answer he sends back is rarely small talk. It is usually a window into the way his particular eye sees the world, and that is irresistible to share.
If you could escape anywhere right now, where would you go? Neptune rules escape, and a Pisces man is always quietly imagining where he would rather be. This question gives him permission to fantasize out loud. His answer reveals what he actually craves, which is information you can use to romance him in the most specific way possible later.
What do you think about when you cannot sleep? A Pisces man’s nighttime mind is his most honest mind. The thoughts he has at two in the morning are the ones he rarely shares with anyone. Inviting him to share them with you is a level of intimacy he will not forget, even if his answer at first is short.
What is one thing you have never told anyone? Save this one for when there is already trust. A Pisces man takes this question seriously, and if he answers it honestly, you have crossed into territory that almost nobody else has ever been allowed into. Receive it gently. Do not analyze. Just hold what he tells you with care, and you will become the woman he tells everything to.
The Single Question That Tells You If a Pisces Man Is Falling for You
If you want to know whether a Pisces man is genuinely falling for you or whether he is being his usual gentle, romantic, soft self with everyone, there is one question that will tell you almost instantly.
The question is, “Is there something you have been wanting to tell me?”
Asked softly, with no pressure and no agenda, this question lands directly on the part of a Pisces man that holds back. Every Pisces man who is falling in love is carrying around something he has not yet said out loud. A song he wrote for you. A future he has been picturing.
A fear about losing you. A confession about how fast he fell. A creative project he wants to share. Something. The internal pressure of holding it builds quietly until it almost spills over on its own.
When you ask this question of a Pisces man who is not falling, he will say no, or he will redirect with a joke. When you ask it of a Pisces man who is falling, you will see his face change. He will pause. He may say nothing for a long beat.
Then, depending on how safe he feels, he will either tell you what he has been holding, or he will tell you that there is something but he is not ready to say it yet. Either answer is the answer. He is in.
This question works because it lifts the lid for him. It does not demand. It does not pressure. It simply holds the door open. A Pisces man who is falling for you almost always walks through it, even if it takes him a while.
Your Biggest Questions About Talking to a Pisces Man Answered
What kind of questions do Pisces men love?
Pisces men love questions that invite them into their interior world. Music, dreams, spirituality, art, the shape of their imagination, the soft places they keep mostly to themselves. They are bored by surface small talk and quietly thrilled when someone asks them something nobody else thinks to ask.
The best questions for a Pisces man are open-ended. Avoid yes or no. Avoid quizzing him on facts. Instead, ask the kinds of questions that let him show you the way he sees the world, because the way a Pisces man sees the world is the most beautiful thing about him, and he wants someone who notices.
How do you start a deep conversation with a Pisces man?
Start gently. A Pisces man does not respond well to a sudden, heavy question dropped in the middle of an ordinary conversation. He needs a few minutes of warmth first, a soft tone, a sense that the moment is safe. Then you can ask the deeper question, and he will rise to meet it.
The phrase that works almost every time is, “Can I ask you something?” That little pause gives him a moment to gather himself, to feel chosen, and to enter the conversation deliberately. Then ask whatever you actually want to know, and let him take his time answering.
Avoid starting with anything that feels like an interrogation. He absorbs mood faster than content, and if your tone feels demanding, he will retreat before he hears the actual question.
What questions should you avoid asking a Pisces man?
Avoid pressure questions about the future when the relationship is still new. Where do you see this going, are you ready for a commitment, what are we, all of these land on a Pisces man as a wall, and he goes quiet behind the wall. Save the future-tense questions for after the foundation is built.
Avoid questions that put him on the spot about his feelings before he has had a chance to process them. He needs internal time before he can articulate what he is feeling. Asking him point-blank to explain himself makes him say something rushed that does not match what is actually inside, and then he feels misrepresented, which is its own kind of wound.
Avoid questions framed as accusations. Why did you not text me back, what is wrong with you lately, why do you always do this. He will simply withdraw. The same content asked as a curious question rather than a critical one will land entirely differently.
How do you keep a conversation going with a Pisces man?
Match his pace and his depth. A Pisces man’s conversation rhythm is slower and softer than most. Long pauses are not awkward to him. They are the air he breathes. If you fill every silence with words, he will start to retreat. If you let the pauses happen and then ask a follow-up question that picks up exactly where he left off, he will keep opening.
Reflect back what he says before you add your own thoughts. Pisces men feel deeply seen when someone repeats a phrase they used and shows that they actually heard it. This single move transforms ordinary conversations into the kind he cannot stop thinking about later.
Share your own inner world too. The more you open up about your dreams, fears, and the way you see things, the more permission you give him to do the same. A Pisces man almost always matches the level of vulnerability he is offered.
What does a Pisces man like to be asked about?
A Pisces man likes to be asked about the things he rarely gets asked about. His creative projects. The book he is reading. The strange dream he had. The piece of music that has been on repeat. The trip he has been imagining. The spiritual question he has been turning over. The story behind the small object on his desk.
He also loves being asked about his childhood, his family, the places he has lived, the version of himself he was at sixteen. A Pisces man’s identity is layered with memory and feeling, and asking him to revisit those layers with you creates a closeness that almost nothing else can match.
If you want a step-by-step playbook for the exact conversations that build a deep, lasting bond with a Pisces man, my Pisces Man Secrets guide walks you through every conversational pattern that opens his Neptune-ruled heart.
If you listen to dating coaches, you can lose your Pisces man forever
Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches.
They wanted to know if it would work with their Pisces man.
And I literally wanted to scream with frustration.
Why???
Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with a Pisces.
You see, Pisces men are VERY different than men of other signs.
And if you use standard dating advice with a Pisces, it can backfire.
He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.
I don’t want that to happen to you.
Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.
You just need to know the specific phrases to tell him…
So he’ll NEVER want to lose you.
He’ll be wrapped around your finger…
And it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either.
These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.
So… for heaven’s sake… DON’T listen to normal dating coaches!
They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is absolutely insane.
Because your wonderful Pisces is NOT like other men… at ALL.
So go here now to find out the specific things your Pisces man needs to hear to melt his heart.
Sending You Love,
Anna Kovach
