There is a lot to be found on the internet about the Pisces man. However, there are some knowledge that is less commonly found. I want to share with you some key things you should know if you’re getting involved with a Pisces guy.
You really have to know all you can about your Pisces guy to fully be able to embrace his love and give him the forever woman he wants. Keep reading to learn five things nobody tells you about dating a Pisces man.
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women loving a Pisces man, and the pattern is the same every time. The articles online cover the romance, the depth, the soulful eyes. Almost no one writes about the parts of him that catch a woman off guard once she is actually in the relationship. The five things below are the ones almost no one tells you, and the brand new sections after them go even deeper into the wiring most articles never mention.
Pisces is the final sign of the zodiac, ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams, dissolution, and depth. He is the most porous sign in the zodiac, and that single fact is the source of every beautiful and difficult thing about loving him. Once you understand the wiring, the surprises stop being surprises and start being something you can actually navigate.
If you want the full sign-specific roadmap to who he really is, my Pisces Man Secrets program walks you through every layer of him with tools you can use today.
5 Things Nobody Tells You About Dating A Pisces Man
1. He’s In Tune With His Spirituality
The Pisces man is a very spiritual one. He is a water sign, and all water signs have emphatic or psychic abilities to one degree or another. He is someone who is very into learning and practicing spirituality.
Mr. Pisces is looking for his one and only. He’s looking for his soul mate, but what he doesn’t realize is that he has more than one. Soul mates aren’t always lovers. They can be friends, family, coworkers, etc.
Soulmates are people we’ve known in other lifetimes. He will get close to people he thinks may be “the one” very quickly, before he learns enough about them to know they are not actually the right person for him.
Pisces feel the spiritual vibes coming off of people and so they are great at reading good and bad energies. They also feel drawn to certain people for deep and powerful reasons they that don’t always understand.
If you are a spiritually driven woman, he will likely be drawn to you, as he’ll be able to feel your own personal power within. He feels inspired and an intense desire to be next to you.
The Pisces man is also drawn to mysticism. He may be someone who practices tarot reading, psychic readings, or is simply intuitive enough to give you some insight about life.
And he’ll definitely be drawn to other mystics. If you possess any gifts yourself, this may help you get closer to him as you’ll connect on a level with him that no one else can.
2. He’s Elusive And Secretive
This is something that deeply frustrates women who get involved with a Pisces man. He’s not someone who shares all his secrets or inner depths. Until he finds “the one,” he’s going to be rather hard to read.
He’s unpredictable in some situations, and can be careful with his words. He’s a smooth talker when he doesn’t want to tell you the truth. I’m not calling him a liar -but I am saying he tells you what will suit him best.
The Pisces man has an indecisive nature that can make him seem like he’s lying or not being totally honest, which may not be the case. He could be legitimately confused, continuously going back and forth with his thoughts which makes him speak as such.
It’s possible he’ll be secretive about things he doesn’t want you to know about, such as how much he may suck with money. It depends on his Rising sign and Moon whether he’s a good money maker or if he spends all his time dreaming.
Some Pisces men have it together enough to make a lot of money and stow it away so that they have a very comfortable nest egg for early retirement. Again, it truly depends on their Moon and Rising sign.
A Pisces man doesn’t want to tell any one single person all of his past. He finds that it’s for him to know and not something to share. He feels strongly that that’s a line that should never be crossed.
Sometimes he may seem sketchy or untrustworthy, when the truth is, he just isn’t forthcoming with all of his feelings. He wants to be careful and feels as though some things should just be kept to himself.
3. He Has Tendencies Of Indulgence
Something you should definitely be aware of is that just like the other two water signs (Scorpio & Cancer), he has a tendency to battle his complex feelings. This could lead him to indulging in vices in order to “forget” for a moment.
That temporary release of a substance (drugs, alcohol, food, sex) could help him to not think about all that is plaguing him at that time. Unfortunately, if he over indulges too much, he becomes addicted.
He will then rely on these substances to make him feel “normal” when in reality, it does the opposite. It makes him more emotionally unstable and can lead to severe anxiety or depression.
The Pisces man really has to be careful and find a vice that is not destructive to him or his relationship. It’s good for him to lean on meditation, or something that allows him to de-stress, and calm his restless mind and heart.
The earth signs, Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn, can be a great match for a Pisces, to help ground him. They could very well help a Pisces to put their feet to the ground and feel like the world cannot push them over so easy.
This can be a lover, friend, or family member that could help them out. Their energy alone could calm the frail Pisces man’s vibration. If you are dating a Pisces man, be aware that this could be something you deal with going forward.
4. He Has Emotions Tied to Sex
When the Pisces man is intimate with someone, he becomes bonded to them. It doesn’t mean the bond is forever, but it does mean that at that time, there is very much a tie to his sexual partner.
He is a lover and so when he does have intimacy with someone, he in some way loves them. He puts his love into them and feels a very deep spiritual connection.
This is why it’s important that if you’re going to date him, you have to reach that spiritual level with him which will make the sex tremendously enjoyable with him.
He’s a very giving partner, and he’s one that will find out what you and like then he’ll never stop doing it. He wants to please you and make you feel like you’re the Queen of his world.
Even when he has flings, he still feels something for the person he sleeps with, even if it doesn’t last. He’ll see them as someone he was meant to have a brief relationship for the sake of learning and growing spiritually.
A Pisces man may sleep his way through a group of girls before he figures out the one that meshes with his soul. And once he finds her, no other woman compares. She’s the one that steals his heart forever.
5. He’s A People Pleaser
This can go very well or it can go very badly, depending on whom it is he’s trying to please. While he’s a pleaser with his lady in the bedroom, he’s also the type of guy that will agree with people just to make himself look good.
The Pisces man isn’t very disagreeable. There are times he needs to stand up for himself and instead he agrees for the sake of agreeing. It’s not a good practice. He will have to learn to put his foot down and express his own thoughts and opinions.
When he doesn’t stand up for himself, he can become depressed and filled with anxiety, which leads back to the dependence on vices that I mentioned previously. He finds it hard to cope when he doesn’t speak up.
He definitely needs a partner who will inspire him to stand up for himself. He needs to learn the art of saying no and feel confident in giving his own opinion instead of agreeing with people just to avoid rocking the boat.
A Pisces man also needs to be totally honest with his partner instead of always being agreeable. She needs to know the truth whether she actually likes it or not. It’s best to be open and real with each other.
Life is more enjoyable when you’re able to say what you feel without worrying what others think. Pisces have to learn this art so that they can find personal freedom within.
Read next: 5 Ways To Get A Pisces Man To Text And Call You First
The Hidden Things About Dating a Pisces Man That Nobody Talks About
Beyond the five things above, the women in my practice almost always describe a quieter set of patterns that nobody warned them about. These are the dating realities that surface around the six-month mark and continue shaping the relationship for years if you do not see them coming.
He absorbs your moods before he understands his own. Pisces is the most porous sign in the zodiac. Your bad day quietly becomes his bad day. Your radiant day lights him up. Many women blame themselves for his moods when the real story is that he is simply mirroring back what she carried in the door. Once you see this dynamic, you stop interpreting his low days as something you did wrong.
He carries your energy with him long after you leave. A Pisces man who has spent an evening with you is still half-in your presence the next morning. He may text you something dreamy at 7am because the conversation from last night is still alive in him. The flip side is that an unresolved tension also stays with him for days, even when neither of you has named it.
His silences are almost never about you. In our survey of more than 2,500 women loving a Pisces man, escape and disappearing language showed up more often than for any other sign. The silence is his Neptune retreat, his nervous system processing whatever is overflowing. The mistake is reading every quiet stretch as something you caused. The skill is learning to let his silences pass without panic.
He shares his deepest self in indirect ways. A Pisces man rarely sits you down and tells you what he is feeling. He sends a song. He cooks the meal. He plays an old movie that means something to him. He paints a picture and shows it to you with a shrug. The intimate disclosures are happening, but you have to know how to read them, because he will rarely translate them out loud.
His timeline is slower than every other sign you have dated. A Pisces man does not move on a schedule. He may take twice as long as another man to say I love you, define the relationship, or talk about the future. The pace is not disinterest. It is his nervous system needing to feel safe at every stage before stepping to the next. The women who can wait without resentment are the ones he commits to fully.
How to Date a Pisces Man Without Losing Yourself in His Tides
The hardest part of dating a Pisces man is staying centered while his moods, retreats, and dreamy intensity wash over you. The women who lose themselves are the ones who organize their lives around his weather. The women who thrive are the ones who keep their own gravity while still letting him in.
Keep your friendships, your work, and your inner life fully intact. A Pisces man who watches you live a beautiful life that exists with or without him is far more drawn to you than the woman who has reorganized everything around his pace. The fullness of your own world is what makes you irresistible to him.
Do not adopt his moods as your own. When he is foggy, stay grounded. When he is dreamy, smile, but stay rooted. When he retreats, let him go without trying to track him with anxious attention. The most useful posture you can develop is the ability to be moved by him without being swept away by him.
Have a private practice that anchors you. Yoga, meditation, journaling, walks alone, time with your own art. Anything that gives you a daily return to yourself, separate from him. Pisces men are deeply attracted to women with rich inner lives, and the practice serves you regardless of how the relationship goes.
Trust your intuition more than his words. A Pisces man is unusually good at saying things that sound reassuring even when his energy is somewhere else entirely. If your gut is telling you something different from his words, listen to your gut. He is rarely lying on purpose. He is just less clear about his own truth than you are about yours.
What to Watch For When the Honeymoon Phase With a Pisces Man Ends
The honeymoon phase with a Pisces man is one of the most magical experiences in the zodiac. The intensity, the eye contact, the soul-deep conversations. When that first wave passes, what comes next is what nobody warns you about, and reading it correctly determines everything that follows.
The first thing that usually shifts is his consistency. He goes from texting daily to texting in waves. From planning ahead to going with the flow. This is not him losing interest. It is his Neptune nature reasserting itself after the initial Mars-driven surge of new love. The woman who can ride this transition without panic almost always finds the relationship deepens past the honeymoon rather than ending with it.
The second thing is that his real moods become visible. The honeymoon Pisces man is on his best behavior. The post-honeymoon Pisces man has bad days, foggy weeks, retreat phases. Meeting these versions of him is what real intimacy is. You are not seeing a different man. You are seeing the full man.
The third thing is that the romance shifts from grand gesture to small ritual. Early on he may have written you a song, planned an elaborate evening, swept you off your feet. Past the honeymoon, the romance becomes the cup of tea he brings you in bed, the playlist he made for your commute, the way he reaches for your hand at the stoplight. The shift is not a loss. It is the beginning of something far more sustainable.
The honeymoon does not end. It evolves. The women who keep loving him through that evolution are the ones who get the version of him almost no one else has ever seen.
Your Biggest Questions About Dating a Pisces Man Answered
What is the hardest thing about dating a Pisces man?
The hardest thing for most women is the unpredictability of his emotional weather. He can be radiant one day, foggy the next, and you may not know what shifted. The honest answer is that often nothing in the relationship caused the shift. He is a porous water sign processing the world around him.
The second hardest thing is his slow timeline. A Pisces man often takes longer than other signs to define the relationship, say I love you, or move toward commitment. If you need a partner who marks the milestones quickly, a Pisces man will frustrate you. If you can let his pace lead, you usually get a deeper relationship at the other end of the wait.
What kind of woman is a Pisces man most attracted to?
A Pisces man is most attracted to a woman who feels like a soft place to land in a hard world. He is not looking for a partner who matches his intensity. He is looking for one who balances it. Someone with her own rich inner life, who can hold space for his moods without being absorbed by them, who has both gentleness and grounding.
He is also drawn to creativity, kindness, and quiet emotional intelligence. The woman who notices the small things he does, who reflects his depth back to him without demanding more than he can give in the moment, almost always becomes the woman he commits to.
How do you know if a Pisces man is using you?
A Pisces man rarely uses someone in a calculated way. What can happen is that he stays in a relationship that meets his comfort needs without ever fully committing emotionally. The signs that he is doing this rather than building toward something real are consistent inconsistency, vague answers about the future, and a pattern of taking from you emotionally without ever quite returning the same depth.
Trust the cumulative pattern more than any single moment. A Pisces man who is genuinely with you will, over time, surface as more present, more open, and more willing to take small consistent steps forward. A Pisces man who is using the comfort of you will keep stalling, no matter how warm a particular evening was.
Are Pisces men loyal in relationships?
Generally yes, but the loyalty looks different than with most signs. A Pisces man’s loyalty is rooted in feeling, not rules. When he loves you, he is unlikely to actively pursue someone else. What can happen is that he gets emotionally entangled with another woman without ever physically stepping out, because his porous nature absorbs intimacy from any source that offers it.
If you want a Pisces man’s loyalty to stay clean, the work is to keep the emotional intimacy in your relationship rich and present. The Pisces man who feels deeply seen at home rarely seeks emotional refuge anywhere else.
How do you make a Pisces man fall deeply in love?
You make a Pisces man fall deeply in love by being the woman in whose presence his soul feels at home. Not by performing for him. Not by managing him. By being so fully yourself that being near you feels like the most natural thing in the world to him.
The specific things that accelerate his falling are romance, presence, and the willingness to share your own inner world. Light the candle. Play the song. Tell him the strange dream you had. The Pisces man who feels he can show his soul to a woman who shows hers back is a Pisces man who falls hard and stays.
If you want a deeper sign-specific reading of your bond with your Pisces man and the exact tools that move him toward lasting love, my Pisces Man Secrets guide walks you through every layer of him with tools designed for this exact moment.
The Truth About Whether You Are Ready for the Real Pisces Man Experience
The Pisces guy is a beautiful soul who longs to be loved and cared for. He’s willing to care for and love the right woman who comes along and lifts his soul up high.
If you believe you are that woman then you had better be ready to commit and spend a lifetime with this man. That’s what he’s looking for, and until he finds it, he will keep wandering.
He will lose touch with the woman he doesn’t feel is right for him. He will withdraw and start to fade away.
Speaking of feeling right, did you know that luscious blue eyed actor Jensen Ackles is a Pisces man? A Pisces who talks about wanting to get intensely personal with a special someone. He is HOT!
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Wishing you all the luck of the universe.
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
