Are you totally crazy about a sensual Pisces man? Is he just too delicious for you to pass over? What can you do to retain him? Keep reading to get some useful tips on how to treat a Pisces man so that he’s fulfilled with you.
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women who adore a Pisces man, and how to treat him is one of the questions I am asked most. And I understand why. A Pisces man is ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams, sensitivity, and dissolving boundaries, so he does not respond to the same moves that work on other men. Treat him the way you would treat an Aries or a Capricorn, and you will push him further into his shell. Treat him the way his soul actually asks to be treated, and he will open up in ways you did not know a man could.
In a survey of over 2,500 women dating Pisces men, 47% said they feel a definite connection with him, while 31% said the connection was real but quietly fading. That gap is almost always about how he is being treated day to day.
The five unwritten rules below are the ones I watch work in real relationships, and if you put them into practice, you move from the 31% to the 47% almost overnight. My Pisces Man Secrets guide walks you step by step through everything these rules are built on, from how he thinks to why he pulls away to exactly how to become the woman he cannot imagine losing.
Why a Pisces Man Needs to Feel Completely Safe Before He Will Let You In
The Pisces man needs a relationship that he feels comfortable and this may take some time to cultivate. Have patience with him and understand that until he feels ready, don’t try to push him to open up and rush the relationship.
While he may seem like he’s up for diving in because you initiated it, it still doesn’t mean that you two shouldn’t take it nice and easy. If you hurry things, he’ll at some point realize it’s too fast and he’ll back peddle
Unless you’re willing to deal with the consequences of what happens if you move to fast then you probably should calm down. He’s not going to go anywhere if he’s into you.
He’ll still be with just you unless he says he wants to keep an “open” relationship. Usually Pisces man is looking for his one and only soul mate so he’s not that interested in juggling women.
However, when he’s young, he may still want to play until he’s ready to get serious. Either way, if you express you want a relationship and he’s feeling you, he will be with just you even if things move slowly.
In fact, it would be to your benefit to make sure that you two don’t move too fast. Take your time, enjoy the time you spend together, and let love develop naturally. This will make him feel VERY comfortable with you.
How to Become the Safe Harbor Every Pisces Man Secretly Searches For
The Pisces man is a dreamer and one of the things he needs is a support system. He wants you to be his best friend and lover. This means being there for him and being his own personal cheerleader in life.
He may not have all the willpower it takes to actually make his dreams come true but if you’re someone who can inspire him to, he needs your help. He may not admit it but truly, you could make his life so much better.
Give him all the support he needs to chase after his dreams and start taking steps to bring them into reality. They may be dreams that you two share together and are able to build a beautiful future together.
Show him by example how it’s done if you can. Take your own career or desires into grips and make them become something of a successful track. He’ll really be inspired by what you can do.
This will make him also want to take the action that is necessary to jump on the train and head in the right direction that makes his life truly fulfilling. It’s even possible for you two to go into business together and be successful as well.
The Truth About Why a Pisces Man Disappears Into His Own World (and Comes Back Deeper)
Pisces guy may not always tell you when he needs some space. Just remember, he’s highly empathetic and sometimes very psychic. This means that he picks up on other people’s energy which can mess with his own.
He needs a bit of space and alone time to recharge and renew himself as a person. He has to ground himself and let go of what the day brought his way. This may mean spending some time without you.
If you get to know him, you’ll get to know his moods and you’ll pretty much know when you need to back off and give him some space. His moods do tend to flip flop and some Pisces men have a tendency to deal with bi-polar situations or depression.
This is why as a partner, it’s important you pay attention to his needs. While you may provide him great comfort and support, you still need to allow him to mull things over and decompress alone. A little time goes a long way.
Warning: These Three Mistakes Quietly Push a Pisces Man Further Away
Before we move into the next rule, there is a warning I have to give you, because these three mistakes are the silent reasons most women lose a Pisces man they could have kept. He will not announce that any of these are bothering him. He will just slowly dim, and by the time you notice, the door is already half closed.
The first mistake is pressing him for answers when he is quiet. A Pisces man processes through silence, not through speech. When you chase him with questions like “what is wrong” or “are we okay” in the middle of his quiet, you confirm his deepest fear, which is that he cannot have both his inner world and you at the same time. He will choose his inner world every time, not because he loves you less but because his inner world does not demand anything of him.
The second mistake is mocking or dismissing the things he cares about. A Pisces man is ruled by imagination. His music, his strange ideas, his spiritual side, the book he is halfway through, the unfinished creative project in the corner, these are not hobbies. They are how his soul stays alive.
The moment he feels you roll your eyes at any of it, even gently, he quietly begins hiding that part of himself from you. And once a Pisces man hides a piece of himself, getting it back takes twice as long as it took to lose.
The third mistake is treating him like he is made of glass. Yes, he is sensitive. Yes, he feels everything. But a Pisces man does not want to be handled. He wants to be seen fully, including his strength. When you tiptoe around him and censor yourself out of fear of upsetting him, he starts to feel more like a project you are managing than a partner you actually love. He would rather have an honest, firm woman who tells him the truth with kindness than a woman who walks on eggshells around his moods.
If you have already felt yourself starting to do this, our guide on what happens when you ignore a Pisces man will show you the healthier version of space, one that brings him closer instead of pushing him further away.
When You Should Take the Lead With a Pisces Man (Without Scaring Him Off)
Sometimes Pisces men can be rather indecisive or just are so oblivious they just don’t realize what is going on. This may mean you need to take charge and make sure things get into motion.
This includes when you want to date him. You’ve got to go ahead and tell him as much otherwise he may not act on it or will not notice you’ve got a thing for him. Even if he’s attracted to you, he often doesn’t say anything until you do.
Also valid, is when a decision needs to be made as far as where you two will eat for dinner, where you will go on vacation, or what to do on your date. You may need to plan it out and then tell him that you two are going.
I wouldn’t do this too often though as he would see you as pushy. Just do it when you know something needs to happen and he hasn’t made a move yet. Go ahead and make that move. He’s worth the risk!
The Secret Way a Pisces Man Feels Loved That Most Women Never Give Him
When you love a Pisces man or are at least like him, you need to show him as much. Compliment him, touch him, and make him feel what you’re feeling for him. He can since he’s an empath.
The thing is; he can ignore it if he isn’t sure how you feel about him. I mentioned initiating in the last step but to further it, you’ve got to show him lots of tender loving care.
He wants a woman who will give him lots of affection and understanding for whatever he may be going through at the time. He needs someone he can rely on. Always be yourself and truthful.
Loving a Pisces man isn’t for the weak. You’ve got to be strong and yet very compassionate, loving, and willing to show him how much you deeply care for him for always.
What You Should Never Say to a Pisces Man When He Is Already Feeling Distant
There are certain phrases that land softly on other signs and hit a Pisces man like a closing door. Knowing what to avoid when he is already a little withdrawn is just as important as knowing what to say when he is close. A Pisces man does not forget the phrasing you used in a hard moment. He replays it, turns it over, and often builds an entire emotional conclusion around one sentence you barely remember saying.
Never say “you are being too sensitive.” His sensitivity is not a flaw to him. It is his identity, his gift, the way he reads the world. The moment you frame it as a problem, he stops sharing his real feelings with you and replaces them with a polite, flatter version of himself. Instead, try “I can see this really matters to you, help me understand.” This tells him his depth is welcome.
Never say “just make a decision.” A Pisces man is ruled by Neptune, which means he sees every possibility at once. Forcing him to choose on the spot sends him into low-grade panic. You can absolutely ask him to decide, but ask it softly and give him a window. Something like “take a few minutes, then tell me what feels right” lets him move through his options without feeling trapped.
And never say “fine” when things are not fine. A Pisces man is one of the most intuitive men in the zodiac. He will hear the gap between your words and your tone, and instead of bringing it up he will quietly retreat and try to figure out what he did. If something is bothering you, tell him, kindly but clearly. He would rather hear a hard truth wrapped in softness than navigate a silent storm.
If Your Pisces Man Pulls Away, This Is How to Treat Him So He Comes Back
Every woman who loves a Pisces man meets this moment eventually. One day he is warm and present, and the next he has gone quiet. You have not done anything obviously wrong, but the rhythm between you has changed. How you treat him in the next three to seven days decides whether he comes back closer than before or continues drifting. This is the moment the five unwritten rules above matter most.
First, do not chase him. A chased Pisces man swims deeper. Send one gentle message that carries no pressure, something like “thinking of you, no need to reply right now.” That one line does more work than ten anxious texts. It tells him you are still here without making him feel hunted.
Second, live your life loudly while he is quiet. A Pisces man is drawn to a woman with her own inner world because he recognizes himself in her. When you spend his quiet time improving yourself, seeing friends, creating something, taking yourself on a beautiful day, he feels it even from a distance. He cannot explain why, but the pull toward you grows stronger precisely when you stop pulling on him.
Third, when he returns, do not interrogate him. Do not ask where he went or why he went quiet. Greet him warmly, as if you had not been counting every hour. A Pisces man who walks back into softness instead of an interrogation learns to come back faster and faster each time. If you want the complete playbook for the silence phase, our guide on the Pisces man silent treatment walks you through exactly what to say and what to avoid.
When you treat a Pisces man with the patience, softness, and intuition his Neptune nature asks for, you become rare to him. Rare in a world of women who try to pull him up to the surface, you are the one who meets him in the deep water where he actually lives. If you want the full, specific map of how to become that woman for him, my Pisces Man Secrets program lays out every unwritten rule, every turn-on, every phrase, and every move that speaks directly to his Neptune-ruled heart.
Your Biggest Questions About How to Treat a Pisces Man Answered
How do you make a Pisces man feel special?
You make a Pisces man feel special by seeing the parts of him nobody else sees. He is a dreamer, a feeler, and a private creative soul, and most of the world treats him on the surface. When you notice the song playing in the background of his life, the story he told you weeks ago, the mood he is trying not to show, you become the one person who actually gets him. That recognition means more to him than flowers or grand gestures.
Small moments matter more than big events with a Pisces man. A handwritten note tucked into his pocket, a playlist made for his mood, a cup of tea handed to him before he asks, these land deeper than expensive surprises. He is sentimental by Neptune’s design, and he treasures the quiet proofs that you are paying attention to him as a person, not just as a boyfriend or partner.
Verbal affirmation also goes a long way. A Pisces man does not always trust that he is wanted, so telling him clearly and often how much you adore him, how safe he makes you feel, how much you love a specific thing he does, rewires the part of him that always braces for loss. The more you speak your love into him, the more he lets himself receive it without flinching.
What should you not do to a Pisces man?
Do not rush him. A Pisces man moves at the pace of his feelings, not the pace of the calendar. Pushing him to define the relationship, move in, meet the family, or commit before his heart has caught up creates a version of him that looks agreeable on the outside while quietly panicking on the inside. Within weeks, that buried panic turns into distance you cannot explain.
Do not compete with him. A Pisces man is not wired for power struggles. If you try to win the argument, prove you are smarter, or keep score of who did what, he simply folds and withdraws. He does not fight back. He disappears. Any relationship with a Pisces man works better as a partnership, two people facing the same direction, rather than a contest.
Do not lie to him, not even to spare his feelings. A Pisces man’s intuition is so strong that he usually already senses the truth. What hurts him is not the hard reality, it is the lie wrapped around it. He can forgive almost anything that is told to him honestly. He struggles to forgive the feeling that he was managed or handled.
How do you show a Pisces man you love him?
You show a Pisces man you love him by creating emotional safety around him. Emotional safety with a Pisces man looks like consistency, softness, and a home base where he can exhale. When he knows your feelings will not turn on a dime, when he knows you will not weaponize his vulnerabilities, when he knows he can be quiet without being punished, he interprets all of it as love. And he loves you back with a depth other men cannot reach.
Touch is also a love language for him. Not just in the bedroom, but everywhere. A hand on his back, fingers through his hair, your head on his shoulder during a quiet evening, these ground him in his body and in your presence. Pisces men spend so much time living in their imagination that gentle, steady physical contact reminds them they are wanted here, now, in this world, by you.
Share your own inner world with him too. A Pisces man feels loved when you bring him into your dreams, your fears, your half-formed ideas, your strange little fascinations. He does not want a curated version of you. He wants the messy, imaginative, sensitive woman underneath, because that is the woman who mirrors his soul. The more you show that side of yourself, the deeper he falls.
How do you get a Pisces man to chase you?
You get a Pisces man to chase you by becoming a woman he cannot fully decode. Pisces men love mystery, not manipulation, just the real mystery of a woman who has her own inner life. When you stop handing him all of you at once, when you leave him wondering what you were thinking today, what you are reading, what that soft smile meant, his imagination fills in the blanks. And a Pisces man in love with his own imagination about you is a Pisces man who pursues.
Your own devotion to your life is the strongest pull. He is drawn to passion, purpose, and beauty, so when he sees you immersed in something that lights you up, whether it is your work, your art, your friendships, your faith, he feels the urge to get closer to that light. Neptune recognizes Neptune. A woman with her own world becomes magnetic to a man who lives inside his own.
And finally, be a little less available than he expects. Not cold, not games, just human. Have a life that does not revolve around his messages. When a Pisces man has to work even slightly for your time, he values it more. He starts to dream about you in your absences, and that dreaming is where his chase begins.
What does a Pisces man want in a woman?
A Pisces man wants a woman who can be both his safe harbor and his dream. He wants the steadiness that lets him rest and the imagination that lets him dream bigger. Practical women who are also romantic are irresistible to him, because they hold the two halves of his own nature. He does not need a woman who is exactly like him. He needs a woman who respects his depth without getting lost in it.
He wants emotional honesty. A Pisces man is allergic to games. He has an uncanny ability to sense when someone is playing a role, and nothing shuts him down faster. The woman he falls for is the one who can say “this scared me” or “I want you” or “I am sorry” without performance. That plain-spoken truth is a rare gift to him, and he rewards it with a level of openness he gives almost no one.
Most of all, he wants a woman who believes in him. Not in a pushy way, not in a fix-him way, but in a quiet, certain way, the way you believe the sun will come up. A Pisces man often doubts himself more than he lets on. When he finds a woman whose belief in him outlasts his own doubts, he begins to build his life around her.
How do you know when a Pisces man is falling for you?
You know a Pisces man is falling for you when he starts letting you see the unedited version of him. The tired him, the moody him, the him who does not have it all figured out. A Pisces man in surface-level mode is charming and warm with everyone. A Pisces man in love drops the show when he is with you. If you are seeing him unpolished and quiet and real, he is in.
He starts weaving you into his future in small, almost accidental ways. “When we go to that restaurant” or “you would love this place” or “next summer we should.” He does not always mean them as plans. He means them as glimpses. A Pisces man’s imagination is where his commitment lives, so if he is picturing you inside it, he is further in than he has said out loud.
The clearest sign of all is that he becomes protective. A Pisces man in love quietly rearranges his life around your safety and your peace. He checks in when you are traveling, stands a little closer in crowds, listens harder when you mention something that scared you. It is subtle, but it is unmistakable. When a Pisces man has fallen, you feel surrounded by a quiet tenderness that was not there before, and it only grows.
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Anna Kovach
Should it really take a Pisces man almost 12 days of silent treatment? He is my fiance and said he needs some time to think. But today will be 12 days and nothing from him. Still shows we are engaged on Facebook. I just don’t know what to do.. I’m giving him his time but 12 days. We don’t live together so haven’t seen him or talked texted since March 26th.
Before we got engaged he broke up with me over a cancer scare and blocked me on Facebook instantly and didn’t hear from him. I started to be okay without him and 3 weeks later he contacted me apologizing and said he messed up. I can’t go 3 weeks. I’m going crazy.
And we are supposed to be applying for places to rent to move in together and can’t even start that.
It just hurts so bad. I’ve been talking to a physic and said that he wants to re-establish the engagement and he will ask me if I want that. But her contact time has been off several times. Now I’m starting to sorry she’s wrong. But she says we do get married and we work on these issues and that he is having a hard time staying away from me but he’s not showing it. Help!!
Hi Heather!
No it shouldn’t take that long. They don’t like to be ignored honestly. Him giving you the silent treatment long term isn’t cool either. He obviously has issues he needs to face and take care of. He sounds emotionally unstable and needs to either see a doctor about this or he needs to learn how to meditate to do something calming for himself. I think you need to walk away for a week and get some perspective for yourself and your own life. His mess is his to tend to. You cannot help him with that. He has to do it or he’ll never change.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We are both divorced. He has a son and I have kids. During these past 8 months, we have been travelling together, shared lots of deep conversations, doing things together, talked about dreams and future. We see each other every weekend and never argued. He said I was the calmest person that he’s ever been with. I understand he’s an emotional man and he’s sensitive given that he’s a Pisces…he and his son do not have the best relationship and he feels guilty of it and he feels guilty of being with me because he thinks he’s not spending enough time with me and when he’s with me he thinks he’s not spending time with his son. He said he loves me but he has lots going on and he said he does put thoughts in the relationship and I know he does but maybe just not the same degree as me. Last week due to some miscommunication , I said we need to respect each other’s time. He replied and said he wants to be alone for awhile all of a sudden. We were still sweet the week before. I am so confused. What do I do? Since the break up, he said he felt like shit for hurting me but he knows I’ll hurt more if we continue. How does he know the future, how can he say that when we had the best time together? Please help !!!
Hi Jane!
Well if he is going through some stuff that has nothing to do with the relationship and it’s overwhelming him then all you can do is be very understanding. You need to be supportive and give him whatever he needs. He will respond well to that. Give him space but every now and then you should text him saying “hope you’re doing alright, thinking of you”. That way he knows you’re still there for him. You can also offer for him to talk to you about his problems if it would help to vent. Remember that if you try to push him to spend time together, he will probably shut down. He isn’t good at juggling with everything he has going on. It’s not about you so be supportive of your guy. If you need more tips, try checking out my book.
I’m in relationship for one and a half month. Me and my pisces guy got fell quickly for each other. In a week ,we have conversation abt future atleast twice ,where he tells that v won’t be together. He is not even letting me go. I don’t know what is holding me back either. Yesterday he told me he is not sure abt his feelings. He always blames me for starting the fight though he would have been the one to start. I feel this relationship is getting toxic where I shd always cry . I’m a virgo woman plz help
Hi Gayathri,
Yes it sounds like you two rushed in. That can cause reality to set in once the novelty wears off the initial excitement. The brain comes to thinking and so the two realize that it would have been better to take it slower and really get to know each other. I think you two should slow down and take it easier. Tell him you two don’t have to talk constantly but get to know each other over time and perhaps things will go more smoothly for you. If you need more help, you should check out my books on Pisces Man Secrets.
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hello i am in a relationship with a pisces guy and i am an Aries woman. We went to the same college. And now we are in an 8 months long distance relationships. Lately we have been fighting a lot. He just says i dont understand him any more but he dosent tell me what is going on with him. After a long confrontation he tell me what he really feel. The long distance really makes me not know thing about him. After a fight he puts the blame on himself. i feel bad that it happened i hate fighting with him. What do i do? please tell me.
Hi Praneetha!
It’s very hard to maintain a long distance relationship with a Pisces man. They want lots of attention and lots of intimacy. Since you two are far apart, it makes him not relate to you. He relates his spiritual connection with you through having sex. Not being able to have that makes him feel disconnected from you. This is why he’s struggling to talk to you. He feels that if you were the right one, he shouldn’t have to tell you because you should already know. The problem with that is, it’s not reality. He needs to talk to you otherwise things are not going to change and things won’t get better. Tell him you want to be close to him but you cannot do that if he doesn’t tell you what is wrong or what he wants. Tell him you’re not good at guessing and you need his help. Check out my books on Pisces Man Secrets for more information.
Why does everything have to be about him? Why should I have to constantly tiptoe around his feelings and walk on eggshells all the time? Why should anyone have to be so understanding about his moods and feelings when he clearly shows by his disappearing or ignoring that he doesn’t care about the other person’s feelings? When do my feelings matter in a relationship with a Pisces man? Because it feels like the answer is never. It’s not right, and it’s not okay for the man to treat someone badly, or ghost them for whatever reason, and then the other person is supposed to be understanding of his “moods”. When I refuse to be treated badly, he disappears, and I am the one who is supposed to be understanding of HIS feelings? What?
Hi Martha!
You don’t need tip toe around him honey. If you need to tell him something then do it. You can do it without being emotional about it. Do it in a logical way. Your feelings do matter and if you’re feeling you cannot express them then maybe your Pisces is the wrong fit for you. You should never put yourself on the back burner. A Pisces man who truly loves you will not ask you to do such a thing either. Weigh the pros and cons of the relationship and if you’re not getting fairness out of it then tell him exactly that. If he cannot handle it then you’re with the wrong guy. I hope this makes sense and I wish you all the luck of the universe!
I have been talking to a March Pisces now for 9 months, I have know him for over 30 years. He is going through his 4th divorce. We have talked and he says he loves me and would never hurt me, but the divorce from #4 is coming up soon and he does not want anything to do with me at this point. We have never dated or been alone together, he is that afraid she will take take him to the limit. She left him to go back to her # 3 x. I told him when this started with he and I that he was going to make me fall in love with him and he said that is my plan, well that happened on both ends but now we have not talked in 2 days and I told him I loved him and if he needed me I was here but I would not bother him. I love him so much but I don’t know what to do except keep myself busy. His friend told me he was stressed to the max and I am afraid something will happen to him.