Do you finally have a date scheduled with that dreamy Pisces guy that you’ve been eyeing, but now you’re freaking out because you aren’t sure what to talk about? Yeah, we’ve all been there. So, let me give you some advice that I hope simplifies things for you.
As a Relationship Astrologer, I can tell you that a Pisces man is not the easiest man to talk to. He often lives in his own mind and this can make it a challenge to try to connect with one.
Luckily, I love to assist others in connecting with one another. So, keep reading on for some tips on how to make it happen!
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women loving a Pisces man, and the question that comes up before almost every first date is the same one. What do I actually talk about with him? You want the conversation to feel real, but you do not want to scare him with too much depth too soon. The six topics below are the ones that genuinely land with a Pisces man on a date, and the brand new sections after them tell you what to do when the conversation goes quiet, what it means if he goes silent after the date, and the five topics that almost always earn a second date.
Pisces is the final sign of the zodiac, ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams, intuition, and dissolved boundaries. He is bored by surface small talk and quietly thrilled when the conversation finds the layer most people never visit. Talking to him well is less about being clever and more about going one step deeper than the average date does.
If you want the exact word-for-word phrases that pull a Pisces man toward you in conversation, my Pisces Magic Phrases program gives you the lines designed for his Neptune-ruled heart.
How Authenticity Lands With a Pisces Man Faster Than Anything Else
Before we get into individual topics to talk about, I feel that it’s necessary to let you in on the biggest pro tip when talking to a Pisces… talk authentically, but kindly.
A Pisces is a sign that seems to just know things. They often feel issues arise well before you do because they have a psychic or telepathic side to them.
As a result, it does no good to lie to a Pisces. Rather, it just complicates matters and makes your delicate Pisces questions themselves for recognizing a truth in you that you’re hiding.
At the same time, make sure that you are communicating your truth kindly. A Pisces is a sensitive soul and he can’t handle a lot of mean-ness, and “tough love” is not the right approach to take with a Pisces.
Rather, it is important to gently but truthfully share what you’re feeling.
Okay, now on to the topics!
Why Talking About Mysticism Opens a Pisces Man’s Heart Wide
Any Pisces I know is going to get really excited when the topic of the mystical or esoteric comes up. This is absolutely their comfort zone!
Like I mentioned, Pisces are highly attuned to the emotions of others in an almost psychic sense. They just understand how energy works and so they get when things shift and, on some level, they recognize the truth in it.
As a result, a Pisces is going to relate to most anything spiritual.
Some suggestions that I have are to ask the Pisces about their meditation habits, if they pray, if they have had any spooky encounters in their pasts, etc.
Any of these topics are going to feel relatable for a Pisces and this normally quiet sign will actually have something to say!
The Secret Reason a Pisces Man Falls for Women Who Talk About Art
A Pisces absolutely loves and needs to escape into their own world. They have a really hard time properly processing reality as it is and they need to be able to remove themselves.
As a result, many Pisces are huge art hounds in any medium. They likely create things on their own in order to communicate their emotions better.
They also likely consume a lot of art. I know many Pisces who are huge nerds and who involve themselves in many “fandoms” because they truly enjoy being able to retreat into another world.
Pisces will devour books, poetry, movies, art, and dance with an endless hunger, especially when they’re stressed about other things.
If you have a nerdy steak in you then this is your time to shine. A Pisces loves to lose themselves inside of video games, tv, and movies so go ahead and ask them about any of those things to see if you have overlapping interests.
The Truth About Sharing Your Problems With a Pisces Man on a First Date
Like I mentioned before, if something is bothering you, that Pisces is going to know it. They might not approach you about it because they are a socially reserved sign, but they likely know that something is going on.
So, don’t be shy, let them in on what is going on. A Pisces is the sign least likely to mind you going into your issues of the moment.
This is because a Pisces is a natural healer. They want so badly to take the hurt away from everyone around them.
They are highly intuitive beings and they might know just what you need to hear.
On top of that, they enjoy hearing you talk about your issues! Emotional vulnerability is the bread and butter of a Pisces man. He is one guy who won’t mind hearing you talk about your feelings for hours on end.
The Single Topic That Tells a Pisces Man You Are Soul-Compatible
Pisces are emotionally wide open and exposed in many ways. This isn’t necessarily because they’re trying to be, they just are like a radio receiver that can’t help but be tuned into the emotions of everyone around them.
For this reason, they are acutely aware of human suffering. They get how much people genuinely feel hurt by their circumstances.
To assist in resolving some of this pain, some Pisces are very into charity work. They are the type of people to give 50 dollars to a homeless person, no questions asked or to be volunteering at the soup kitchen a few days a month.
If you can show them that you also have an open heart, then this is going to be a topic that they are definitely into talking about.
They are going to be thrilled to be in the presence of another sensitive and kind souls and they will be excited enough to talk your ear off about all the new people they meet volunteering or how fulfilled it makes them feel.
Read next: 5 Ways To Get A Pisces Man To Text And Call You First
What You Should Never Be Afraid to Joke About With a Pisces Man
A Pisces is not typically thought of as a funny sign, but they have their own quirky sense of humor. They need a little bit of humor to help alleviate some of the emotional burdens of others that they feel.
It may take a few tries to gauge where their funny bone is, but don’t give up. A Pisces is empathetic enough to know that you’re just trying to lighten the mood.
A couple of tips to keep in mind, are that you should never lead with an offensive joke that degrades any group of people or animals. A Pisces is just not going to be on board with jokes like that… they feel sad when people get made fun of.
So, go ahead and try something a little lighter, like working on some puns or jokes about a TV show or movie that you both like.
They might go for jokes about their own emotions since Pisces can be self-deprecating at times. But they won’t hear of a self-deprecating joke about yourself! They’ll be likely to jump in and correct you immediately and remind you of what a good person you are.
As long as the joke isn’t offensive then they will likely be able to use their flexible mind to appreciate where you’re coming from and get a good chuckle.
When the Conversation Goes Quiet on a Date With a Pisces Man
Even with the best topics in your back pocket, a date with a Pisces man will sometimes hit a quiet stretch. This is not failure. This is Pisces. Reading the silence correctly and responding to it well separates the women who get a second date from the women who do not.
A Pisces man’s silences on a date are often him processing what you just said. He is not bored. He is sitting with the feeling your last sentence created in him. The mistake most women make is filling that silence with more words. The skill is letting the silence breathe with him for a few seconds before either of you says anything else.
If the silence stretches longer than feels natural, do not panic. Look around. Notice something specific in the room. The painting on the wall. The man at the next table laughing too hard. The way the light is falling through the window. Comment on it gently. A Pisces man loves a partner who notices the world around her, and that small observation often resets the conversation into a deeper register than the one you were in.
The thing to never do is fill the silence with another question about him. He needs space, not pressure. Trust that the conversation will pick back up on its own, and let the quiet stretch be part of the date rather than a problem to fix.
If a Pisces Man Goes Silent After the Date, Here Is What It Means
If the date felt great but he goes quiet for a few days afterwards, that silence is almost never what you fear. The post-date silence with a Pisces man is so common that it is practically a defining pattern, and reading it correctly will save you weeks of unnecessary worry.
A Pisces man processes a connection internally before he reaches back out. After a good date, he is replaying the conversation, sitting with the feeling, deciding what he wants to say next. That sitting can take days. In our survey of more than 2,500 women loving a Pisces man, escape and disappearing language showed up more often than for any other sign. The good news is that almost all of these silences end with him reaching back out, often with a message that picks up where the date left off.
The mistake most women make is sending a follow-up text within the first 24 hours to test the waters. The follow-up text usually feels needy to him, even if you intended it casually, and it often pushes him further into his processing. The right move is to wait. Let him reach you first. The Pisces man who came home from the date with real feelings almost always reaches out within three to seven days.
If a full week passes without contact, you can send one warm, low-pressure message that does not demand a response. Something specific from the date. A song that played. A moment you remembered. Then stop and let him decide. The Pisces man who is still interested almost always replies. The Pisces man who is not is also giving you information, and that information is worth knowing.
5 Topics That Will Make a Pisces Man Want a Second Date Within Hours
Beyond the six core topics above, there are five specific subjects that almost guarantee a Pisces man wants to see you again. They work because they bypass the surface and land directly on the layer of him that most dates never reach.
The book or movie that changed you. A Pisces man absorbs stories. Telling him about a book that shifted something in you, a movie that made you cry, a piece of writing that you still think about, gives him a window into your inner world that he will remember for weeks.
The dream you had last night. Pisces is ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams. Sharing a dream with him is one of the fastest ways to signal that you live partly in the same interior territory he lives in. He will often share one of his back, and you have entered an entirely different conversation than the one most people have on dates.
The place you have always wanted to travel to. A Pisces man is a quiet escape artist. Hearing about a place that calls to you lets him imagine you there, and his imagination is half of how he falls in love with someone. He may even start picturing himself in the photo with you.
The strange or beautiful thing you noticed today. The cloud that looked like a face. The conversation you overheard at the cafe. The light through the window. A Pisces man falls in love with the way you see the world, and a small, specific observation tells him you see it the way he does.
Something you have never told anyone. This one is reserved for later in the date, after warmth has built. A Pisces man receives this kind of vulnerability as a gift, and offering it tells him you trust him with something you do not trust most people with. The Pisces man who hears that almost always wants to see you again, because he is already imagining what other private things you might share with him next time.
Your Biggest Questions About Date Conversation With a Pisces Man Answered
What do Pisces men like to talk about on a date?
A Pisces man loves to talk about the layer of life most people never bring up on a date. Music, dreams, spirituality, art, the strange thoughts you had this week, the place you have always wanted to go. He is bored by small talk about work and the weather, and quietly thrilled by anyone who skips past it.
The fastest way to find his favorite topic in real time is to ask him what he has been thinking about lately. The answer is almost always something specific and slightly unusual, and following the thread he gives you back will keep the conversation rich for hours.
What should you not talk about on a first date with a Pisces man?
Avoid heavy financial talk, status comparisons, name-dropping, or stories that frame you as the hero who triumphed over villains in your past. None of these land well with a Pisces man. He is not impressed by what other men are impressed by, and he often quietly disengages when a conversation tips into ego.
Also avoid pushing him to define what is happening between you on the first date. Pisces men hate being asked to articulate something they are still feeling. Save the future-tense conversation for many dates later, after the foundation is built.
How do you keep a conversation flowing with a Pisces man?
Match his pace. A Pisces man’s conversation rhythm is slower and softer than most. Long pauses are not awkward to him. They are the air he breathes. If you fill every silence with words, he will start to retreat. If you let the pauses happen and then ask a follow-up question that picks up exactly where he left off, he will keep opening.
Reflect back what he says before you add your own thoughts. Pisces men feel deeply seen when someone repeats a phrase they used and shows that they actually heard it. This single move transforms ordinary conversations into the kind he cannot stop thinking about later.
How do you know if a Pisces man enjoyed the date?
You know a Pisces man enjoyed the date by what his body and his eyes did during it more than by what he said at the end. If his eye contact was sustained and soft, if he leaned in toward you, if he laughed easily and lingered a beat too long when saying goodbye, the date landed for him.
The verbal confirmation often comes later, in the form of a message that picks up a moment from the date with surprising specificity. He noticed everything. He just needed time to process it before naming it back to you.
What questions should you ask a Pisces man on a first date?
Ask him about the music he is currently listening to, what he believes in spiritually, where he wants to travel, the most beautiful thing he has seen recently, and what he thinks about when he cannot sleep. Each of these bypasses the obligation layer and lands in the part of him that craves real conversation.
Avoid yes-or-no questions. Avoid quizzing him on facts. Ask the kinds of questions that let him show you the way he sees the world, because the way a Pisces man sees the world is the most beautiful thing about him, and he wants someone who notices.
If you want a deeper sign-specific reading of your bond with the Pisces man you are about to date, my Pisces Magic Phrases guide walks you through every conversational pattern that opens his Neptune-ruled heart.
Have you ever gone on a date with a Pisces man? What did you talk about? Let us know down in the comments!
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Wishing you all the luck in the Universe,
Anna Kovach
