Wondering how to get your Pisces crush or love interest to text or call you first? It’s a tricky one, this world of digital dating! You don’t want to seem needy, and at the same time, you want to have that point of communication. It’s a fine balance to walk. Here are some ways that you can get him to be the one to reach out first.
No one ever said modern dating was easy! Back in the day, you would simply have to wait and see if he got hold of you via letter or a home phone call! Was this better than it is now? In some ways, yes… at least we weren’t checking our phone obsessively every few moments!
But we all have to adapt, right? And we have to find ways to navigate this brave new world. As every woman knows, most guys aren’t amazing on the phone and prefer to connect face-to-face. But what if you’re just starting the dating phase, or you two don’t live together?
You don’t want to seem needy, and it’s never comfortable to chase someone, right? Ideally, you’d like your Pisces crush to chase you. To call you first, be the first one to reach out and make plans. However, is he the sort of personality that does that?
Generally, no. Pisces people can be notoriously passive. Unlike fire signs, they are happy to wait and see what happens, and do not give chase when they’re keen. This can be a bit frustrating. And it takes a good deal more intricacy to somehow get him to be the one calling your first!
Let’s explore what will make him chase you in general, before we look at some ways that could get him to contact you first:
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women loving a Pisces man, and one of the most common questions I get is the same one. How do I get him to be the one to reach out first? You do not want to chase him, but the silence is becoming hard to sit with.
The five ways below are the ones that genuinely work, and the brand new sections after them tell you exactly why he goes quiet, what specific message types pull him toward you, and what to do when you have already made the mistake of texting first too many times.
Pisces is the final sign of the zodiac, ruled by Neptune, the planet of dreams, intuition, and dissolved boundaries. He does not respond to texting the way most men do. He responds to atmosphere, to feeling, to the quiet space your absence creates in his interior world. Once you understand the wiring, getting him to text first becomes far less mysterious.
If you want the exact word-for-word texts and phrases that pull a Pisces man toward you without ever feeling chased, my Pisces Magic Phrases program gives you the lines designed for his Neptune-ruled heart.
What Will Make Him Chase You
Plenty of Romance
If there’s a lot of storybook romance in your bond, you can be pretty sure he’s going to want more of that – and to chase you down for it! Romance is an addiction for most Pisces people, and they truly love it when they feel like they are the Prince to your Princess.
Go out of your way to make special moments count – no matter how cheesy they may seem!
If He Needs You – Or You Need Him
Pisces men love to rescue. And, they love to be rescued. Like a knight in shining armor, they swoop in to save the day and the damsel! Creating an environment where you need each other will definitely foster a deeper connection and have him reaching out to you far more.
A Spiritual & Emotional Connection
Being a water sign makes these men crave a deep, spiritual and emotional connection. He wants to feel like your soul and his soul collide, to feel like you’ve merged together. He needs to feel emotionally seen and understood to have that intimate connection with someone else.
When There’s No Pressure
Most importantly, Pisces men want to feel as if there’s no pressure in the relationship. Like, at all. This will help them to chase you more and be the one who calls or messages first. When he feels free to love, is when he performs at his very best and make you feel ultra-special.
5 Ways to Get a Pisces Man to Text and Call You First
1. Don’t Put Any Pressure on Him
Number one rule to get a Pisces man to chase you first is to not put a single bit of pressure on him. Don’t make him feel like he has to call or check in with you, that he has to perform a duty for you.
The moment he feels pressure, he runs. Perhaps more so than any other man. He feels overwhelmed very quickly, so needs a bit of space to figure himself and his feelings out. When he reaches out without pressure, his messages and calls will inevitably be sweet, romantic and intuitive.
2. Ignore Him for A While
One of the best ways to get a Pisces man to chase you is to simply ignore him for a bit. Yes, it’s hard not to reach out, but after a while, he’ll wonder what you’re up to and get in contact. This ties into not putting too much pressure on him to contact you.
Lean back, involve yourself in your life and don’t be too dependent on him to receive love and validation. He’s probably the one that’s going to end up more dependent on you in any case, so just trust the process and give him space.
3. Change Your Profile Picture to Be Mysterious
Whether you mainly communicate on WhatsApp or any other service; it’s handy to use you profile picture to “hook him.” Pisces men love a bit of mystery, and they are mainly very visual creatures, and usually very creative and artistic.
So, when changing your profile picture, make it something imaginative and thought-provoking. Spiritual art or quotes will particularly tickle his interest and have him itching to reach out and ask just what it is that made you choose it!
4. Don’t Text or Call Out of the Blue
Pisces men are generally introverted. Which means that they can be quite withdrawn and get anxious or panicked when they are confronted with – gasp and horror – a phone call!
Whatever you do, even if you think it’s “fun,” don’t call him randomly! This will just put him off completely!
Read next: Pisces Man Hot as Lava then Cold as an Ice Cube: Why and What To Do
5. Invite Romance into Your Physical Interactions
If you really want him to reach out to you on the regular, invest a lot of time and energy into your physical interactions. Make your time together romantic and sweet, and make him want more of you.
Go on magical dates, go dancing – play music together, have fun, look at the stars and dream up dreams together. Paint a happy picture of your relationship in the future, do yoga, meditate together.
This will all go into the “piggy bank” of how he feels when you’re apart, making him crave that connection even more.
Ultimately, there’s not perfect way to get him to contact you first. Pisces men are not your typical manly man that loves to chase. He’s happy to let days go by without contact, forgetting that time even exists.
He lives in a magical dream world, you see. And that dreamworld sometimes has no concept of hours or days. However, like all men, if he really wants you, he will make that effort to see and speak to you.
Trust in that, live your life and carry on. As a Pisces man would say, “if it’s meant to be, it will be.”
Why a Pisces Man Goes Quiet (and What His Silence Actually Means)
Before you can get a Pisces man to text first, you have to understand what his silence actually means. Most women misread it, and the wrong reading leads to all the wrong moves. The right reading sets you up to draw him back without ever lifting a finger.
A Pisces man’s silence is almost never about you. He is ruled by Neptune, and Neptune wires him to retreat into his interior world whenever the volume of feeling around him gets too high. Sometimes the volume comes from his work, his family, a memory that surfaced, or a song that touched him. The retreat is his nervous system processing. It is rarely a verdict on the relationship.
In our survey of more than 2,500 women loving a Pisces man, escape and disappearing language showed up more often than for any other sign. Women specifically describe him as someone who runs away when things get real. The silence you are experiencing right now is the most common Pisces pattern in the entire zodiac, and the vast majority of these silences end with him reaching back out within days or weeks.
The mistake most women make is filling his silence with their own anxious texts. The anxious energy underneath those messages is exactly what keeps a Pisces man hidden longer. He feels it from across town. The woman whose silence sits comfortably alongside his silence is the woman he reaches for first when he is ready to come back.
The Specific Text Types That Make a Pisces Man Want to Reach Out First
If you are eventually going to text first to break a long silence, the type of message you send matters more than almost anything else. The wrong text restarts the chase pattern. The right text resets the dynamic and often gets him to lead from the next message forward.
Send a feeling, not a question. A Pisces man does not respond well to “Hey, what are you up to?” or “How was your day?” Those land as obligation. He responds beautifully to a message that shares a small, specific feeling. “I just heard that song we used to play in the car. It made me smile.” That kind of text bypasses the obligation layer and lands in his soul. He almost always reaches back.
Send a sensory detail from your own day. A Pisces man falls in love with the way you see the world. Tell him about the sky. The book in your hands. The quiet moment in the cafe. He absorbs your attention to beauty as a love language. He reaches out to keep that frequency alive.
Send something that requires no response. The text that pulls him in is the one that does not demand he reply. “Just thinking of you. No need to write back.” A Pisces man who does not feel pressured to respond often responds within hours, sometimes minutes. Pressure makes him hide. Generosity makes him surface.
Send him a song. Music is a Pisces man’s emotional native language. A song you think he would love, sent with no commentary, is the most effective single text you can send a Pisces man you want to hear from. Half the time, his reply is a song back, and the conversation reopens itself naturally from there.
What to Do If You Have Already Texted Him First Too Many Times
If you are reading this section because you already broke the rule and have been the one initiating most of the conversation, do not panic. The dynamic can be reset. It just takes a deliberate, patient pivot, and the pivot has to come entirely from you.
Stop initiating completely for at least two weeks. No good morning texts. No memes. No casual check-ins. Two full weeks of letting the silence be his to fill. This is harder than it sounds, and it is the single most important move. The Pisces man who has been receiving steady contact from you has stopped reaching for you because he no longer needs to. The pause restores the polarity.
Live a visible, beautiful life in those two weeks. Post the photos from the dinner. The hike. The art show. The Pisces man who is watching from a distance, even quietly, sees the version of you that is full and luminous, and he reaches for that version even when he was not reaching for the daily-text version.
When he reaches out, do not match his enthusiasm tenfold. Reply warmly but at his level. Match his energy. The woman who responds to a four-word text with a four-paragraph reply teaches him that he can send four words and still get the full feast. The woman who matches his pace teaches him that he has to bring more if he wants more.
If he does not reach out within the two weeks, that is also information. Some Pisces men go quiet for longer stretches. If a month passes with nothing, the relationship may be telling you something real. But in most cases, he reaches out within ten to fourteen days of your sustained quiet, and the dynamic resets cleanly from there.
Your Biggest Questions About Getting a Pisces Man to Text First Answered
Will a Pisces man text first if he likes you?
Often yes, but not always immediately. A Pisces man who likes you will eventually reach out, but his timeline is slower than most signs. He texts first when he feels emotionally moved, not on a schedule. So you may go days between his messages even when he is actively interested. The intensity is real. The pace is just different.
The Pisces man who likes you and never texts first is usually one of two situations. Either he is dealing with something internal that is keeping him quiet, or he has been receiving so much initiation from you that the polarity has flipped. Both can be reset with patience and a deliberate pause from your side.
How long should I wait before texting a Pisces man?
If he has been the one going quiet, give him at least three to seven days before you reach out. The vast majority of Pisces silences resolve themselves within that window. He processes, he misses you, he reaches back. If you fill the silence with your own messages, you interrupt the very process that brings him back to you.
If you are establishing a new dynamic, wait until he texts you first, and then respond warmly but without overcompensating. The cleaner the rhythm starts, the easier it is to maintain. The longer you wait without texting first, the more clearly he learns that reaching for you is his to do.
Why does my Pisces man take so long to reply to texts?
Pisces men are deeply non-linear with time. He may see your text, feel something, and need hours or days to process before he can put the right words back. The slow reply is not disinterest. It is internal processing.
The other reason is that Pisces men hate sending a reply that does not feel right. He would rather wait and send something honest than fire off a quick reply that does not match what he actually feels. Patience with his pace tells him you understand him in a way most women do not.
How do you make a Pisces man miss you over text?
You make him miss you by being slightly less available than he expects. Not unavailable. Slightly less available. Reply a little later than he replies to you. Take a beat before answering. Live your beautiful life and let him watch from across the screen.
The Pisces man who can reach you instantly stops longing for you. The Pisces man who has to wait a few hours sometimes, who can feel the slight space between the messages, starts to feel the pull. That pull is what makes him reach out first.
What if my Pisces man has stopped texting completely?
If he has gone fully silent for more than a week, do not chase. Send one warm, low-pressure message that names the closeness you remember without demanding anything. “Saw something today that reminded me of you. Hope you are well.” Then stop. The next move is his.
If he replies and re-engages, the dynamic is recoverable. If he does not reply within another week or two, accept what the silence is telling you and turn your full attention back to your own life. A Pisces man who is meant to come back almost always does. A Pisces man who does not come back is making a choice that you can grieve and move past.
If you want the exact word-for-word texts that pull a Pisces man back into reaching for you first, my Pisces Magic Phrases guide walks you through every message pattern that opens his Neptune-ruled heart.
Biggest Mistakes Women Make When Texting a Pisces Man
Now that you know exactly how to get your Pisces man to call and text you, I do have to warn you about one thing.
There are certain texting behaviors that will make a Pisces man lose interest in you…
Communicating with a love interest is a very delicate dance (and so much trickier to do over text!) and all it takes is one wrong message to send him walking the other way…
Just to be safe – you need to check out the three big texting “no-no”s you should avoid before you make a mistake that leaves you on reading!
Take a look at the link I have for you below and learn how to avoid the biggest texting mistakes with a Pisces man.
>> Discover 3 biggest texting mistakes women make when texting a Pisces man.
You won’t regret it!
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
I tried everything nothing works especially with a dark sided Pisces. Pisces just too difficult to deal with and not worth it. There are other fish in the sea!
Hi Maria!
Indeed there are other fish in the sea. Just be sure that you don’t cast off all Pisces because of one stale fish. They’re not all the same because their birth chart gives them different personalities. Start to focus on yourself, your needs, and your desires so you can manifest the right man for you. Here’s wishing you nothing but the best!
Hi! I have a pisces bestfriend. We talk for hours on the phone. We live in different cities. He always says how happy he is talking to me. He tells me about his dreams and asks for advice. He alwasy shares meaningful songs and movies and makes me feel happy. Here’s a problem, he recently got in a relationship. I have a crush on him. But its honestly giving me mixed signals i’m confused. He always says i love talking to you and my girlfriend gets jealous. We talk for 4+ hours minimum a day. What should i do? He has a tendency to go cold for days and i lean back too. I always initiate contact first. Then when we talk its like he never left. So this time i told myself that i wont feed into this and he reached out. I’m confused. I don’t wanna loose him. I really cant read him. Please help.